Chris Hatfield - Attachment 🧠
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Tuesday 21 October 2025 17:15:43 GMT
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AlexaSantiago1 :
Unfortunately the avoidant is never willing to comprimise. They never think they’re wrong
2025-10-23 21:35:44
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Rei :
i have anxious attachment, I've been in love with an avoidant. they aren't willing to try. How do I get over them when it's been 22 years?
2025-10-21 17:24:19
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Garry Clagg :
I’m anxious she’s avoidant. We loves butterflies. So if she’s needing space to regulate she sends a 🦋to say we are good just needing to regulate. It calms my fears that she isn’t unhappy in the relationship just needs to heal a bit
2025-11-09 20:01:55
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lost.in.the_cosmos :
for the longest time, I didnt know i was an avoidant. I thought something was genuinely wrong with me and I was an evil, horrible person and I hated myself. every time id fall for someone, then we'd start dating, and it immediately felt like my body and brain were just rejecting them completely against my will. I felt so awful and I couldn't understand why all this love I felt for them had seemingly disappeared overnight. ive just started dating again after years of completely avoiding it, and im trying to go easy on myself and take it slow. I'm getting used to being touched and having someone actually want to talk to me anad be around me all the time. there is still a alot of anxiety and I still dont completely love all of it, but im still new to this and I love my boy enough that I try every day to show up for him and push myself to relax into it. its hard, and I still sometimes feel like an evil, horrible person when I dont respond for a few hours or take my hand away. but this page and your advice is really helping my journey.
2025-11-02 01:57:48
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onusryan :
So basically what I hear is that the anxious person has to get a grip on their anxiety and the avoidant person has to believe they did. But the avoidant needs to do nothing else 🙄
2025-10-22 11:33:02
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HS :
My avoidant ex never took accountability, everything was my fault. It was so draining. The silent treatments, the manipulation, gaslighting, lies… I don’t think he will ever change for anyone
2025-10-24 08:34:42
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ilovesweettea_23 :
i like watching at least one of these videos a day
2025-10-22 05:56:09
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Arky :
Given that anxious and avoidant seem to be a mirror and almost seem like they are the parts that each are missing, do you think from these understandings they can heal alongside each other? Well assuming they are both self aware.
2025-10-23 18:44:56
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Khaled :
If she doesn’t answer for a while. Would it be good to go confront them in real life and show them how you understand and how much you like them? To talk about the things that’s bothering us?
2025-10-31 14:12:49
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Nkanyezi🌈 :
Best partners are those who are secure who have grown from the same disordered attachement as they understand each other's fundamental needs. Anxious and Avoidants think in fundamentally different ways and therefore really struggle to understand oneanother even when more secure.
2025-10-22 05:31:59
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𝓨𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓛𝓸𝓬𝓪𝓵𝓒𝓵𝓸𝔀𝓷⦻ :
I always like when I’m having rough nights and overthinking you ALWAYS seem to appear on my fyp and it helps remind me I’m just overthinking and need to step back and breathe
2025-11-03 03:32:45
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Ɨ Ⱥm Mɇ :
i tried to explain to her that she's an avoidant and she got mad at me 🤷
2025-11-12 14:18:14
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valemi0502 :
I'm dating an avoidant but I don't think he knows he's avoidant so how can I help him with that? I already know I'm anxious so I'm working on myself
2025-12-17 23:36:14
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Johana 조하나 :
i think i keep attracting avoidants bc im secure attachemnt. i feel like they see me as their mom they never had or something.
2025-11-20 03:05:07
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️ 𝙷é𝚕𝚘ï𝚜𝚎🌙 :
i do believe that it is possible to make it work if both of the partners know what attachment they have, and love eachother so much that they are both willing to change themselves to have a secure attachment through therapy and deep talks
2025-10-26 00:30:59
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Kaiks_Hawai'i :
Well explained. Thank You! 🙏🙏
2025-10-22 05:20:00
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Michelle :
Awareness, action, and asking ✅
2025-10-22 11:31:23
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Han :
My anxious attachment is complex from childhood trauma and past dv relationship. I’ve married a severely avoidant. I absolutely do not need texting all the time or even to be with him all the time, I need my alone time a lot as does he. We rarely ever argue but when I find out he’s hidden something and lied then when I try talk and say I hurt I am he gets so defensive, takes a tone, shuts down and just stares at me whilst I cry. So I leave the house for a couple hours give him time because apparently is anxious peeps need to understand they need time.. I come back and still nothing. I’m left to work through the emotions alone and feeling sad and resentful. He says he doesn’t say anything so he can avoid the Fi flick which I understand and also says if he doesn’t say anything it’ll just be wrong… this comes from his bad childhood with an abusive dad so I’m trying so hard to understand how complex it is when both have childhood and past traumas but my god it’s hard. I just get left to feel sad, work through it alone and move on from it myself. It’s exhausting
2025-11-18 10:39:44
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D :
Yep 👍🏻
2025-10-22 18:51:48
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Leo ✌️🐅🤠💥💫🐅 :
i love this.i lost both my parents at the age of 11 my brothers in my 50s so I totally understand this..its such a struggle ..
2025-11-23 17:07:05
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💣💥🩸Luke in war🩸💥💣 :
I'm a mix of both
2025-11-30 22:59:11
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Crÿbabÿ :
I clearly communicate my needs I don’t need to hear from u everyday but lemme know we’re ok
2026-01-17 22:35:58
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Grace Slater :
Iam in this exact situation
2025-11-01 19:22:10
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