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Kmc31283 :
the only, and I mean ONLY, way you can create any kind of connection with an avoidant is to truly accept that it is going to take a LONG time, and you NEED to remain detached and focused on your own life as it unfolds. If you are in a season of your life where you are desperate for connection, you will lose your mind trying to find it with them
2025-10-25 16:24:48
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Pikachu👽 :
I responded with peace for months while he was secretly connecting with a new girl. Im sorry, but us acting soft doesn't change their mind, if they wanna cheat and leave they will.
2025-10-23 00:47:09
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Nellie Krokstad :
ok but what about your needs?
2025-10-28 15:45:33
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ainz.angel :
The best thing about these tips is if you follow them, not only do you give the avoidant the room and safety they never had, you inadvertently are soothing your anxious mind at the same time.
2025-10-24 07:21:50
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Abigail ☮︎ :
“Match their silence with softness” when their silence feels like a punishment for opening up and they will never comment on those feelings unless you bring them up again and again and again. They will discard you and make you feel so alone
2025-10-24 01:11:57
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BombShell :
That is all great and productive but only if the avoidant is working on the “toddler behavior”. Enabling this leads to a life of unfulfillment and getting treated less than deserved vs someone who is capable of a reciprocal loving relationship.
2025-10-23 19:40:06
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Ashly Bakema :
As an anxious attached person, you think becoming secure is the answer to keeping them. In reality, becoming secure is realizing that you want someone else secure.
2025-10-28 07:54:56
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bailey boo :
Stop normalizing this crap. Avoidant hurt people period they have issues you can’t heal. Don’t settle and be desperate
2025-10-26 17:30:18
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user6620424291366 :
Yeah so none of this works.
2025-10-27 09:17:00
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Madonna Bowman :
I rather be alone
2025-10-27 23:28:18
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Julius Vitorino :
Shouldn’t be like this either way tbh. If two people truly love eachother enough that person will change and work on those bad habits not keep them around in a relationship
2025-10-27 18:13:55
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cammie07 :
I acted with compassion at first, but there was only so much I could do before I felt like I was giving too much leniency and he wasn't taking accountability for his avoidancy nor trying to fix it himself and it led to me getting so frustrated with him
2025-10-24 16:35:46
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ChristinaTheAmazing :
We need to encourage avoidant’s to HEAL not tiptoe around their dysfunctional ways. It’s not their fault but it is their job to be better.
2025-10-30 04:21:03
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Cassie Ulrich :
chat gpt has been my go to!
2025-10-24 13:46:33
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Emma :
Incredible emotional intelligence and sovereignty. Well done you. Takes a grounded and self assured woman to realize this
2025-10-29 18:16:35
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wh00tee :
yea. but they cheat lie and ghost.. been there ...
2025-10-26 13:37:11
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heather.p :
I tried so freaking hard
2025-10-26 03:28:54
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Caroline :
did you reached out to him during silent periods? or not at all? maybe it's making my avoidant more insecure when he here's nothing anymore? or do I just let him come first and stay silent
2025-11-07 07:35:54
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kingfluffeh :
Trying this now, thank you
2025-10-23 00:48:10
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Lady E :
Thank you
2025-10-29 22:18:41
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Nicole Ciccone :
why is it we are always looking out for their needs.. i never see posts about how we BOTH can work together….
2025-11-04 06:25:50
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angelo cabrera :
The number 1 on the list is the point of view that I have. Which explains a lot since I know the story that led to the present situation. It was not used as an excuse.l, it wad the reason that I puzzled out personally.
2025-11-06 08:30:03
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Jay :
Thankful 4 these 👑🌹🔥
2025-11-20 20:19:24
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iseduardoz :
I think that would be healthy if it focused on helping the partner find a safe space to start walking in.
2025-11-04 22:42:49
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WhatMyEyesSee💜 :
Love this
2025-10-23 16:53:49
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