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Just-Jess :
So she still needs to carry the mental load and give him a list of what needs to be done. As if he doesn’t live there and could also be aware of what needs to be done.
2025-10-24 15:18:36
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NerdyShipDad :
This is a nice demonstration of good communication but it’s clearly favoring her. She has the mental load and he has to adjust his actions/thoughts/behaviors as a supportive spouse. But where’s her portion? She has the mental load that’s to some extent self imposed and he just has to adapt to that? She had no role in self soothing the mental load? Why is only he making all the accommodations? I call BS
2025-10-24 07:05:26
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UltraEnigma :
In other words, her priorities must be accomplished first before his priorities can be done. This requires communication first like he suggests, but she also needs to acknowledge that sometimes her priorities aren't necessarily an immediate need.
2025-10-24 04:57:56
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Lorna May 🌈 :
It seems like it would be more productive for them to both rest when they get home for a set time instead of forcing him to push his own limits just because she likes to push her own. Good conflict skills regardless but I don’t blame him for resting if he’s tired or overstimulated.
2025-10-26 15:08:41
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Angela Merzetti :
This is really great, healthy communication . I will say though that some work could maybe be done on both ends - she could maybe look at evaluating her sense of urgency and figure out what really needs to be done immediately and what can wait. And I’m sure he can work on completing the tasks that did wait without being asked . Sometimes when we are in a constant state of overwhelm we can be frantic and everything can feel urgent even when it’s not. I’m someone who really prioritizes rest in between tasks , my husband is a go-go-go / can’t sit down person . It’s not really fair that when one partner decides in their head silently that there’s this urgent task list that needs to be handled immediately , the other is expected to also be in that state of mind. Rest is also productive sometimes and we all need at at different times . I hope that makes sense and doesn’t come off the wrong way. But all of that said I really really love how you two talked this through and have saved it to share with clients as an example of healthy assertive communication 🥰
2025-10-28 00:54:24
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Lukazo :
So she saw him on his phone and made up a story in her head about how he doesn’t care or prioritize things the same as her and now he has to apologize for her assumptions and different way of operating?
2025-10-24 22:18:29
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Allogenicphotography :
Really interesting how some comments are more about personal interpretation and perception of the conversation than the objective listening of what was said
2025-10-24 18:19:41
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Tiyamike R N Maziya :
I'm sorry, this is good communication? 🤭 I'd literally pull my hair out if I had to talk like im in the middle of therapy session. 🤣...also, is it really that hard to just double team the chores so everyone has less to do? 🤷🏿♂️
2025-11-26 16:35:55
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LL🇨🇦 :
A man that listens and gives an empathetic and validating response and takes responsibility is what is missing from the blueprint in general.
2025-10-24 22:43:55
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Joel Bennett :
okay, this is good for deep conversations with potential blow ups involved, but there is no way either person would do this every day or multiple times a day. that would be exhausting
2025-10-25 00:56:24
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nwrealestatebrokers :
I’d like to share that I understand you have a lot of things on your mind, however we just went and did a lot of things and now I feel like you don’t respect my need for rest and when you get mad at me for sitting down I feel like you don’t understand that.
2025-10-25 01:12:20
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Lynny :
Immediate follow. This would end all war.
2025-10-24 02:53:44
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🇦🇺 :
This kind of gentle parenting does work at all with my husband, he doesn’t listen until I am pushed to a complete breakdown , I wish it were this easy
2025-10-25 01:01:54
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92aims :
I wish conversations could work like this for me. My partner asks me what’s wrong. I tell him how I’m feeling and why. His response “I think you’re being too sensitive”
2025-10-27 23:28:34
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Miranda :
Sometimes being on the phone once coming back is a way to regulate after being outside and overstimulated tho (I’m very introverted and it helps me) if this is the case his need for that needs to be respected as well
2025-11-30 23:13:42
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Alla :
Wonderful example of a calm conversation 🩵
2025-10-25 14:32:01
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Gardenlady :
This should be taught before anyone gets married!!
2025-10-25 15:54:43
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amandaaaa :
The solution needs to be “okay I’m hearing that I need to working on anticipating things further in advance”
2025-11-25 00:58:57
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Buy More Time 🇦🇺 :
Omg I loveeeee this! Thank you! The mental load is a huge thing!
2025-11-17 11:46:07
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abernathy101 :
On repeat, that’s the reality. It’s like a continuous retraining program . Exhausting
2025-10-26 01:36:29
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lagerolamo :
Much better than: "Hey, I can only relax after this house is in order, otherwise I'll have to rest in the mess and clean tomorrow when I work and dont get to rest" "well, thats your need, I think we should do it tomorrow" " ok how bout then WE SPLIT AND YOU CAN REST ON YOUR GARBAGE WHENEVER YOU WANT AND I BE IN PEACE 🥰"
2025-10-28 12:43:52
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tinawatkins46 :
blueprint
2025-10-24 19:10:52
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AdoptiveMama :
Sooooo relatable
2025-10-24 18:05:10
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YYCKal :
Oh, where were you when I needed this during my marriage? If I’d had the tools you’re teaching back then, things probably would’ve turned out a lot better 😭
2025-10-23 22:10:40
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Mike Patterson :
Blueprint
2025-10-23 23:50:03
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