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Reuploading this video with kind of hashtags that will more likely bring man is a good idea, but I'm here for other reason. Please don't take this as spam, I'm only commenting this again, because I sent this in your dm and left it under your original video too but got no response. Again, great video! Thank you for talking about it!
Hi! I send this message in your DM (I think it's called), but I'm not sure if tiktok allows it, so, just in case, I'm commenting here too. Sorry! Thank you!
I am sorry about any grammatic or other mistakes in this text, English is my third language so I tried to use my knowledge but to be sure, I used translator and even ChatGpt to help me with this message. Hope you'll meet this message! Thank you!
I just wanted to say I thought your video on why women are often afraid of men was incredibly insightful and well-explained. It clearly resonated with a lot of people.
However, I'm writing because the comments section has become a case study in the very problem you described. The discussion has been derailed by toxic responses to anyone trying to add nuance, particularly men who express feeling hurt by sexism.
The specific trigger was a comment from a man saying, "I'm just tired of being hated for being a man." Instead of being seen as an attempt to relate or share an experience, it was met with mockery and the common refrain of "now imagine being a woman." This "comparative suffering" is invalidating and shuts down conversation.
What truly concerned me, was seeing that you had liked one of these dismissive comments, a reply saying "and we are tired of being raped and abused!". While the sentiment is understandable, using it to dismiss a man's expression of pain reinforces the exact dynamic your video critiqued, it teaches men that their voices are unwelcome and that allyship is pointless.
I've spent a lot of time, in the comments trying to explain that we can acknowledge women's valid fears and systemic oppression without dismissing the sexism men can face. But it's a losing battle against so many comments.
My request: Would you be willing to make a follow-up video addressing this? You have the platform and credibility to explain why these dismissive responses are counterproductive. You could help your audience understand that:
Men's pain and women's pain are not in competition; they are often two sides of the same coin of rigid gender roles.
Invalidating someone's experience is a sure way to breed resentment, not allyship.
The goal is to break the "us vs. them" dynamic, not deepen it.
Your original video was so good at outlining the problem. A follow-up on how to actually talk about it without falling into these traps would be incredibly powerful.
I know this is probably a lot to ask for, but I hope you will find time for it. Thank you.
Thank you for your time and for creating such thought-provoking content.
2025-11-01 12:37:21