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Annelizabeth :
Thank you for posting this. I also had an insidious discard, and I am also in that psychological waiting room. This helps me understand
2025-11-06 14:10:10
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madelinerose :
But they are so nice to everyone and nice to the new person it’s insane
2025-11-03 11:01:39
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Kassi :
It’s just hard to accept that was the real him because he wasn’t like that all the time, and I did love him. Especially because he was the one who discarded me and made me feel like it was my fault for reacting. I feel mean when I call him narcissistic, and then I try to rationalize why he did that and think maybe it was me and maybe he’s not narcissistic. But then I realize what he did and go back and forth. So if you have any tips on how to truly accept it lmk 😭
2025-11-03 03:42:37
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j :
I linger on his good traits like him being gentle because he would always blame me whenever he gets mad and verbally abuse me. He would always apologize that he didn’t mean any of the things he said after 😭
2025-11-03 02:57:57
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. :
What if he was just abusive towards me but maybe he isn’t to next partners ?
2025-11-03 05:38:14
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thespiritedbrunette :
I’ve reached this stage of healing, but it’s still a tough pill to swallow for sure.
2025-11-03 03:27:50
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jassyydelcarmen :
i feel this greatly but with an ex best friend which i never thought I’d expletive at the hands of a woman. she completely berated me, dehumanized me, and justified that I spoke to her the exact same way which was far from the truth. She stole from me all while i was going through grieving the recent passing of my mom, my bil was just diagnosed with cancer and my pregnant sister was in the hospital.
2025-11-03 16:07:21
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Northsider :
[Quite long but had to share] —Discards are so horribly painful and the worst part is that people outside of the situation justify them as “they probably needed space from your dynamic” or “they had every right to remove themselves whenever they felt like it”. Only victims know how horrible and inhumane it is, especially coming from someone who you thought held you in a special place in their heart. And don’t get me started on the post discard abuse/devaluation. They make you feel so small and unwanted- always while blaming you. These people think they felt deep love for you while they were loving you but the truth is- their perception of emotional closeness is very shallow and it’s what ruins relationships- making people like you & me react anxiously while they discard us later on and throwing all the blame on us being “too much”- and we end up questioning ourselves too.
2025-11-03 19:52:21
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girl idk :
that realisation also broke me down as a person lol. realising that changed how i viewed people and the world as a whole
2025-11-12 19:29:01
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Isa :
Your videos have helped me realize i almost dated another Narcissist and my most recent situationship was not the loml who will “fix himself and come back”
2025-11-03 09:06:21
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Kat :
dang. i'm gonna be listening to this on repeat tn lol. i also tell myself since i said something mean back to one of them, that maybe i'm the problem. just ruminating on it for years
2025-11-07 05:55:20
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TheSkinLady :
My trauma therapist literally saved my life, so I completely understand what you are sharing
2025-11-03 18:44:49
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Nick Dales :
I thought I was crazy and was almost convinced I was the narc because of cognitive dissonance.
2025-11-05 14:33:48
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💕💕💕Happy Joy💕💕💕 :
truth. how he pulled it off for nearly 26 years- was shocking
2025-11-03 02:58:55
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Rain :
So real
2025-11-03 15:13:48
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infinity fox ❌️🙏♾️🖤 :
I know the good version was a lie too but he crawled into my heart and soul to figure out what I wanted in a soulmate then pretended to be that person, now I don't believe it exists anywhere in anyone and I'll never find it.
2025-11-15 23:34:24
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daria_dakota :
You are 100% right, thank you for this message ♥
2025-11-03 06:59:18
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Nic :
How did she fool me for so long ?
2025-11-03 17:21:49
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jujubee1243 :
How long has it been since you’ve been discarded? For me 3years still feel stuck sometimes planning to get emdr therapy
2025-11-03 22:02:52
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stephaniekuri4 :
This is so true. I kept waiting for the version I THOUGHT he was to return. I waited 6 years. I was losing my hair and a shell of a person and that version never came back. I had to leave to save myself. Hardest thing I ever did
2025-12-30 01:53:09
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audrey_634 :
So if he is shouting 2 inches from my face and yelling at my kids telling them they are the problem once a week and then he’s the sweetest most helpful husband the next 6 days he is for sure abusive?🙈I’m so confused I left him earlier this year for worse and he has been better but still yelling at me and our kids
2025-11-08 01:02:17
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🦖🦈𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐔𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐄☾︎ :
they didn't discarded me i discarded then i could take it anymore
2026-01-02 17:01:51
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healing soul :
I can’t believe how cruel and evil he was towards me the way he spoke to me and how deep he hurt me the things he said I’m still in shock
2025-12-02 02:39:01
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