Sabrina Zohar
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Carly :
Ten hundred percent. It also doesn’t mean we should wait around for them to be ready, though, and / or do the emotional work for them
2025-11-05 00:19:00
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cath :
Maybe it needs to be reframed to “if they wanted to and had the capacity to, they would”
2025-11-05 13:55:40
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Federica 🌻 :
girly I get you trust me! but 99% of the "if he wanted to he would" we're talking about isn't that kind of freeze response... it's the ones who dont care. Women stay way too long, trust me if the intent were good it would come out at some point
2025-11-06 22:45:38
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CanIGoByCaptainNow? :
I also want to add that - it doesn’t matter what he does. If she doesn’t want to see it, she won’t.
2025-11-05 08:45:15
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aoifs :
Sure but the outcome is still the same. It doesn’t really matter what’s behind it if you’re still not getting when you need from someone.
2025-11-05 20:37:38
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Jennifer :
*Rolls my eyes* If he wants me, then he should. If he can’t then it’s fine, he can just stay away from me.
2025-11-05 19:36:20
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Cate :
I think “if he wanted to, he would” needs a caveat of this applies to working on himself, too. If he can’t do the thing for me because he doesn’t have the capacity, but also doesn’t want to figure out how to gain the capacity, I’m not interested in that either.
2025-11-04 23:54:32
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user638382916 :
know what that changes? nothing. if "he wanted to, he would" is an incomplete sentence, which can be completed in an infinite amount of ways. e.g.: if he wanted to, he would...(gain the capacity/ ability or whatever else necessary to achieve his goals)
2025-11-05 19:15:44
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Genevieve Films :
Well but if he isn't "doing" and he isn't up to scratch, why keep him. If he wanted to, he would - maybe it's true maybe not. But if he wanted to and doesn't - NEXT!
2025-11-07 13:26:48
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TherapyWithSarahP | Ontario :
This is one of my least favourite quotes!!!
2025-11-05 18:02:25
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Nayhomie :
So how do we overcome this?
2025-11-05 08:54:18
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Crystal Pagana :
Girl this man just gave me a whole love confession two days ago then ghosted me😭😭😭
2025-11-07 08:01:20
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eyetack :
Yup. That part of my brain is broken.
2025-11-05 01:00:03
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💚Kell🩵Cabel💜 :
I don’t care anymore about why “they” do what they do, they leave people with severe emotional whiplash, after they are suddenly discarded by these people.
2025-11-05 15:11:53
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chefcamilarinaldi :
Ok so I shouldn’t text him either way, right? Because he left me hanging and now I am confused.
2025-11-05 20:31:26
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Tam :
100%. Some people want to but just know how to because they were never taught how to. For example some people have a lot of love to give but were never taught how to or even how to even give that love to themselves. You need to fall in love with yourself before you can fall in love with someone else.
2025-11-05 20:18:24
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its..meee....hiiii :
"If he wanted to, he may already be trying, but bc neither of you can communicate well he didn't realize he wasn't, and you never talked about it, now you're both unhappy"
2025-11-05 20:49:04
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Kat :
If he wanted to he would is actually a dangerous concept for creating self sabotage….
2025-11-05 12:50:21
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Amy :
Wonderful explanation. Thank you so much.
2025-11-05 00:01:58
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hey.its.birdie :
Thank you. He’s told me how much he cares for me but he’s in deep grief and associates love with loss. He wants to but he just can’t 😭😭😭. This helps me understand it so much more and not blame myself. 🙏🏻
2025-11-05 08:14:10
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tj :
thank you, I am unfortunately the one learning to no longer shut down and become dissociated, I lost my ex in August because I couldn't be vulnerable with her, and she needed someone who could. i really don't want to ruin any other relationships that I might have in the future as she was the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with but lessons learned now I am working on myself to be able to do it right if I ever date again. thank you for putting this into better words then I ever could I wish I could have shown her this or found it long before the brake up. can't change the past but I can change myself for the better.✌️
2025-11-05 20:16:30
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user7408559803134 :
THANK YOU! You have taught me so much just now. I am understanding myself how my brain works. This is amazing
2025-11-05 00:22:52
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JD :
No matter what, you're still responsible for our behavior as an adult.Right , or do we havel excuse for that too
2025-11-05 10:10:48
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Sophia :
No we don’t find excuses for them
2025-11-07 01:51:46
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