Miss Jaye
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🇨🇦🏳️⚧️Gian-Luca :
In all Western cultures, femininity, differently from masculinity, has not been encouraged to develop as much around self-dignity, practicality, and gender superiority. In fact, on the contrary, for practical survival reasons, femininity has self-developed around acting, fragile, irresistible, vulnerable, dependable, harmless, glorious, and acting a bit stupid, a little bit like a bubble head doll; this happens for the sole intent to facilitate male fragility in the context of overwhelmingly demanding heteronormative societies. The heteronormative paradigm has invaded people’s lives with the competition to embody social status symbol stereotypes. A peculiar social endeavour; a strategy that aimed to facilitate males' social image, male courtship endeavours, and patriarchal favouritism. Therefore it is not as uncommon for anyone who is feminine in nature to feel the way you do when you embrace certain traditional feminine aesthetics, especially considering your past gender experience. One great way to break from it, is to refuse contemporary bubble heads aesthetics and to choose instead, smart, and provocative grandma aesthetics. That can be done in many smart different ways of course. It all depends on your possibilities and sensibility. Kim Cardcian did it wearing Marilyn Monroe’s dress, I do it wearing a Mary Poppins bag, Cher does it defining herself as a rich man, and male lovers as desserts. It is up to you to find and use feminine aesthetics to elevate your self-esteem, mental awareness, and the message you want to send out. The good things about aesthetics are that they are in constant change, and we, trans individuals, are the embodiment of one of the most powerful changes in gender aesthetics in the entire history of Western societies. ❤️🙏
2025-11-05 19:20:25
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Keekers82 🇨🇦 :
I love being feminine and dressing girly but it makes me feel weird. I'm a strong female that seems to carry a stronger masculine energy and when I'm wearing feminine things I feel like I'm taken less seriously
2025-11-05 14:52:45
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S&Y Brand Paper 🇨🇦 :
I love this take.
2025-11-05 14:53:00
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Mama B🇨🇦 :
Exactly 👍
2025-11-05 14:57:36
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Elle Harlow :
100% babe. as a plus size woman we're expected to perform high femme at all times which feels exhausting to me and feels so unnatural for me. when I do indulge in my softer femininity it feels "fake" or disingenuous and can make me very uncomfortable.
2025-11-05 21:47:10
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MamaBearShar🇨🇦 :
This! Happy to walk with you 💗
2025-11-05 18:01:40
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hnrbrcht :
Figuring out what’s femmephobia (internalized or externalized) and what’s gender dysphoria has been rlly complicated in my transmasc experience. But unlearning & deconstructing that femmephobia is so freeinggg!!
2025-11-05 15:10:09
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user665Lesli🇨🇦 :
it's only now that i'm in my 60's ( and invisible ) that i am feeling safe enough to let my more feminine side out - growing out my hair, wearing earrings, florals and pink...never wanted to attract male attention so hid in black and short hair..
2025-11-05 19:59:04
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SandfirR4322 :
I love how you explain your thoughts!!! 💭
2025-11-05 19:27:48
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🐉Kaos✨️Kristie🫦 :
yeeeeesssss it suuucks. especially for Neurodivergent gals! masking is exhausting
2025-11-05 15:39:13
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brooksidebrushstrokes🇨🇦 :
That really just made me rethink a lot of things! Thank you for sharing that
2025-11-05 15:21:33
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🏳️🌈 Queer Shannon 🇨🇦 :
High five lady!!
2025-11-05 15:10:54
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NotStepford :
💯
2025-11-05 17:24:47
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🏳️⚧️ Necrospecter 🏳️⚧️ :
it's just so confusing really the feeling of vulnerability, the new emotions, it gets so overwhelming. I spent so much of my life suppressing my emotions, and hiding being trans. But now I'm 4 years out over 2 years on hrt and 101 days away from bottom surgery. Knowing others feel this way even cis-women has helped some but it is still so hard to find the way to deal with it mayhaps this comes out and incoherent babbling so I apologize bit thank you sweetie for sharing
2025-11-05 17:59:27
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Kim Sherry 🇨🇦 :
Exactly Miss Jaye
2025-11-05 19:13:33
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❤️✨CuquiPR 🇵🇷 :
100% it is. And I believe in cultures like mine it is very imbedded in every aspect of life
2025-11-05 15:21:58
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Mrs_Super🇨🇦 :
Amen!!! You are beautiful thank you for sharing
2025-11-05 17:15:32
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notabird :
💖💖
2025-11-05 19:58:12
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Jaime Rebecca :
This makes so much sense ❤️
2025-11-05 15:55:49
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HaileyFinMikkels :
I feel just the opposite, if I show any signs of masculinity or have to “boy mode” in any way, I feel vulnerable and weak, shame and fearful. When I am just me, feminine me I feel strong and powerful and it’s bliss. Maybe I had to pretend to be a guy to too long…🫶🏼🏳️⚧️🫶🏼
2025-11-05 15:37:10
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Elvis’ Mom :
I was raised in the US south. We were taught to be soft and quiet and compliant and to not cause a fuss. I’m in my late 50s now, and I can finally see how detrimental that is. I have a 16 year old great niece, and her parents are NOT raising her the same way. She is so confident, I have so much hope for this generation of southern girls.
2025-11-06 16:20:19
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Merrilee :
Yes! As a straight cis woman, I have these feeling as as well when I make choices to present more feminine. Hearing you express this is an absolute revelation to me 😮
2025-11-07 06:31:02
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ninegensers.ca 🇨🇦 :
YES
2025-11-06 10:48:24
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ItsMackenzie :
Omg. Thank you. I’ve needed to hear this exact thing today. 🥰🥰
2025-11-06 04:00:06
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@VaultOfDreams :
💯🙏👀 This a lot of our testimony, I agree that it has nothing to do with being trans, but we feel this in our bones and our soul, thank you for being brave and speaking out
2025-11-06 01:19:26
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beatriceportinari4 :
yes. 💜
2025-11-05 21:06:46
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meggie :
I'm a woman and living in my feminine and showing it can be uncomfortable, bc anytime I have, I've ended up heartbroken or hurt in some way. So, I just tuck it away.
2025-11-09 23:38:42
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KareBear :
100%
2025-11-23 12:51:57
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Jojo 🏳️🌈 🇨🇦 :
I had the same feelings when I came out as lesbian.
2025-12-02 11:27:00
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JenMSWI :
It’s because women are vulnerable
2025-11-06 00:41:52
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GrammaSquirrel :
I am ancient years old understanding this “feeling” to me. 😳🤭
2025-11-11 14:14:03
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Islandgurl-13 :
✨🙏💛
2025-11-10 04:34:14
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not_a_cat🇨🇦 :
Good words
2025-11-08 21:56:09
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Constance :
Yes! Thank you! 🩷🙌🏼
2025-11-07 00:16:21
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RuralDee 🇨🇦 :
Put downs are so often given in terms of the feminine. If you present as feminine traits, you are somehow lesser. I think it’s a defence mechanism of the patriarchy, who are scared they might be treated the same way if they lose power. Eg you throw like a girl, you don’t have the balls, etc.
2025-11-05 23:00:23
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manydragonflies #C222 :
Yeppers! All of that!❤️🤟
2025-11-06 00:19:46
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TheCheeseStandAlone🧀 :
I have 2 things to comment and one of them is slightly adjacent. In patriarchy I don't think it matters if you lean more fem or not...each side brings a diff flavor of men. Men are taught from an early age to hate women. What's the worst thing a little boy can do....act/be/throw/cry like a girl. They grow up: they hate us but also require us as a status symbol to do the one thing they can't (have children). We're still even today roughly treated like dumb cattle (if we hope to remain part of the our families & society anyway). Many girls/women also adopt this mindset subconsciously....I get along better with guys or I just can't trust women, etc. The second thing is what happens when a woman reaches an age (or perceived age) where she is no longer valuable to men (breeding/children etc), and therefore essentially disappears even when taking up physical space in society. As a trans woman I don't know if you will ever experience that, but for some it's freeing and for others it's devastating.
2025-11-06 10:46:55
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user4897232872987 :
Yes!!!!!👍
2025-11-12 03:20:27
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vjowig :
I just love you!
2025-12-04 21:21:45
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Froggy Bohart :
❤❤❤
2025-12-03 15:41:31
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raven :
🥰🥰🥰 You are wonderful and I’m thankful to wake up and see your posts every morning. I’ve said this on one of your posts before, and I’ll say it again. I genuinely believe that humans that embrace their transness, are the ones who are actually the closest to understanding God. I believe that God is non-binary, and I’m so very proud of you and I’m so very thankful I get to watch your journey.
2025-12-08 11:33:26
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The Saltiest Chicken🇨🇦🏳️🌈 :
So here’s the thing. Femininity is often artificially inflated vulnerability/impracticality. I’m semi-gender queer, like I’m gay, I’m fine with male pronouns but I don’t think about my gender much because mostly I just do what I what interests me and otherwise I stick to things that are fun or practical. Most practical things are seen as masculine. Women are expected to put in a heap of effort to be women. You have to wear shoes that are more dangerous, painful and more likely to injure yourself in. Not to mention it being more difficult to run away from wolves. If you wear pants they can’t have pockets. Your shirts can’t be made of strong material, you need to wear thin clothing despite always being cold, you have to spend heaps of time and money making your face pretty for other women, because straight dudes aren’t looking at your faces. You’re encouraged to wear clothing that gives easier access to parts of your body you don’t want to give easy access to. From the outside being a woman feels like you’re signing up for a very sparkly pyramid scam, where everyone blames every inconvenient thing on men, despite the fact that it’s other women telling you how to be women. (Don’t get me wrong patriarchy is perpetuated by both genders but I don’t think women realize how much men don’t expect so many of the things you guys stress over.)
2025-11-30 00:14:00
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Shannon :
I feel like I always double check everything about being more feminine. Wear a dress, make sure it’s not too short, too tight, too revealing. Wear makeup and style my hair, make sure it’s not too heavy, too dark, it’s a constant double take in my mind.
2025-12-25 16:34:51
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Irene | Mission Realtor :
😞😞😞
2025-11-23 20:58:55
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🏳️⚧️ :
Yes! This exactly!
2025-11-20 17:51:46
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lindaswain419 :
you can tell me Amy thing I'm your friend
2025-11-13 22:40:20
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🍀☘️ WendyRoseArtist ☘️🍀 :
Yessssss
2025-11-13 21:43:41
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AlexaPeters :
When religion, society and culture tells you that feminine equals submissive, you realise the truth about guilt in woman. Woman by their very nature closeup taking less space than men. Unfortunately or not, as trans woman we give up this right for space and it hit us harder since we had a part in it in our previous lives. ❤❤❤
2025-11-12 18:29:00
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kathybaldwin_finally :
Yea sorry that's how women have always carried that💞🇨🇦🇨🇦
2025-11-06 00:30:13
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sumilla :
Ohhhh bang on miss Jaye ❤️❤️❤️❤️
2025-11-06 01:39:44
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