@girlthepoet: You can’t rebuild trust with an avoidant partner who’s cheated because betrayal only reinforces their core defense: emotional distance. Avoidant attachment is rooted in fear of dependence and intimacy. When they cheat, it’s not just about desire…it’s about control. It’s their way of keeping closeness on their terms while avoiding true vulnerability. Afterward, they often minimize, deflect, or rationalize what they’ve done because acknowledging the hurt would mean confronting shame and emotional accountability…the very things they spend their lives avoiding. So when you ask, “Can I ever trust them again?” the truth is: not unless they confront the root fear that drives their avoidance. And most don’t. #avoidantattachmentstyle #attachmenttheorytalk #avoidantbehavior #psychologyfacts #foryoupage❤️❤️

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imlacikaysomers
ImLacikaysomers :
It’s true they don’t change
2025-11-07 08:06:25
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redsupernatural
Charlie 🌒🖤🎃🔥 :
He emotionally cheated on his new partner with me but we’re not together to string me along .. wow! But he thinks not
2025-11-06 22:33:17
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croley1985
trigger1985 :
You could have stopped with "you can not trust the avoidant.."
2025-11-07 09:37:14
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maryfins04
Sugar Girl :
He told me he’s not emotionally involved with her but she was proclaiming her love and he entertained it.
2025-11-06 22:58:18
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musclegirlmommy
christine :
he compartmentalize’s everything in his life. friends, work, me & our daughter (co parenting), family … he never really brings any of it together.
2025-11-06 22:26:42
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detroitgirl22785
Detroitgirl2278 :
its not a matter if they'll do...its more like when will it happen
2025-11-06 21:43:28
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thecwordcreative
The C word :
It was his ex wife. For a year of our relationship.
2025-11-07 04:02:48
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casebakes
Casey :
Happed several times through our marriage. Forgave the first one and just gave them the Greenlight apparently
2025-11-07 23:08:26
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thestizzle
thestizzle :
What if it was text cheating?
2025-11-06 23:55:10
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sdubs8
SDubs :
What's crazy is he said he would never forgive me if I cheated on him
2025-11-09 04:29:45
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missme6125
missme :
This is ANYONE with a additive personality, not just an avoidant. Society has all of us compartmentalizing just to survive!
2025-11-07 19:16:35
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laryyclaryssa
LaRyy C Laryssa :
I was “overwhelming” but he could reply and check on his crazy ex that talked bad about me and asked him for money and was all the time in trouble because he was “too good of a human” ( his words) lol 😂
2025-11-07 09:48:37
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hahahaitszach
User001 :
Yeah they do whatever they want.
2025-11-07 16:48:36
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deniseeeeeeeeeeeee
Deniseeeeeeeeeeee :
So what about the avoidant ex that comes back to you to see if you can make it work but OOPS forgets to mention he started dating someone and is now cheating with YOU on his new, easier gf. Making you the secret?
2025-11-07 20:07:59
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mwhit007
whome007 :
Give a warning, hold a hand maybe, too early in the morning
2025-11-07 16:34:53
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user20588787066066
Autumnbrz :
she is 100 percent correct
2025-11-07 01:56:37
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marilum79
Marilu79 :
He cheated on me with his ex. The same one he left to be with me. After the discard he went back to her and now they live together.
2025-11-08 12:42:06
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bloom_792
🖤 :
Yep. He admitted he compartmentalized. He also said he adapts to every person and situation he’s in. Also said he’s a people pleaser.
2025-11-09 02:07:38
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peterlprosser
PeterlProsser :
Yeah. Very true. She said, “you mad? Don’t be.” I just blocked her.
2025-11-07 05:10:55
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tanzeer_a
tanzeer a :
if this avoidant in a long term relationship didn't this once, means will do it again ?
2025-11-06 22:08:00
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stjohndigitalmedia
Cam Marley Dixie and Friends :
people can change
2025-11-07 00:49:20
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riskyone71
riskyone71 :
Yup it’s disgusting
2025-11-08 01:19:41
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larnellwellsjr
J R Wells :
And the more they do this the more the shame and guilt they have to deal with at some point. TRUE they can compartmentalize but they cannot wipe their memory totally clean at some point this comes back to haunt them in the worst way of imaginable.
2025-11-09 03:34:17
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shortnsweetsof
shortnsweetsof :
I have no doubt that he’d do it again or that he’s done it more than what I’ve caught but I mentally feel so stuck and I beat myself up over that every day
2025-11-09 04:02:28
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