@thegottmaninstitute: If your feed looks anything like ours, you’ve probably seen people talking about The Bird Theory. 🐦 But here’s what most don’t realize: it’s not just a metaphor, it’s science. The idea comes from Dr. John Gottman’s research on “bids for connection.” Every time your partner points something out, a bird, a meme, a moment, they’re really saying, “Share this moment with me.” Film your own Bird Theory moment and tag us, we want to see your real-life bids for connection. #BirdTheory #GottmanMethod #RelationshipTips #CouplesThatCommunicate Creators: @noahandlori @ezrasosa @quincieandzach @omayazein @jenjensseven @gemini_blue619 @callimoon @saskiakaterinaherd
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Thursday 06 November 2025 20:59:05 GMT
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Michelle Anderson :
Everybody must see birds everyday. I don’t understand this trend.
2025-11-07 15:03:10
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AliceThrewTheGlass :
one of the many reasons I divorced my husband was because he ignored me when I pointed out birds. Years later I hear about bird theory and feel so seen.
2025-11-08 22:49:17
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Jennifer Brush :
Poor husband that’s married to a marriage therapist - but when I said “Oh! There are a bunch of new flowers on my plant!!!” And he put his whole phone down and came to look with me and said “Oh wow! We didn’t notice because it was facing the other direction!” Immediately I thought - “he passed.”
2025-11-08 09:12:22
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Angels240sx :
Is it possible to come back from me begging him to talk to me. I'll say stuff and he won't engage and it feels like I'm wanting to connect but idk how
2025-11-15 18:57:24
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cherryred🍒 :
i need a guide on which book to start first. im currently still in the talking stage but we both know what we want exactly, which is marriage. he's been chasing me since 2020, but I was not ready to start a relationship at that time, and now we're trying to build connection. I truly apreciate his efforts.
2026-02-25 07:06:20
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Bobo Bailey :
Sharing a "moment" or experience is about feeling less alone in our own world. That's the whole purpose of connection. To feel "WITH" someone
2025-11-08 14:34:57
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morganhoward91 :
Connection attention companion someone that can relate to what you’re saying, even if it is silly to that person
2025-11-25 14:53:56
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Sena :
an emotional bank account
2025-11-07 07:41:13
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ThePos :
Picture this scenario. Oh look, the football is on tv darling. Traditionally, what’s been her response?
2025-12-27 13:14:54
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Cutesonia333/selfmade :
I don’t do that anymore
2025-12-28 06:05:06
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fragile_badass :
6 years ago my boyfriend was murdered and since then I have done the bird test theory in the beginning of every attempted relationship and I will do it within the first couple weeks and the reason why I have been single for 6 years is because of the lack of response from the bird test theory and I didn't even know it was called the bird test theory but I refuse to settle down with anybody who makes a mockery or is bored with my joy when I want to know all about his Joy so that I can continue that joy for him and I would rather be alone and keep my joy to myself since I don't matter
2026-01-07 04:29:21
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Jenny F. :
🥰
2025-11-25 05:22:06
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user7232794178948 :
😳😳😳
2025-11-10 03:10:39
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subashiniasokandevi :
🥰🥰🥰
2025-11-30 17:29:29
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