@sabrina.zohar: I’m gonna get yelled at for saying this but telling someone they have to text you daily isn’t a boundary #boundaries #datingadvice #selfworth #control #relationshipadvice
Wait...telling them i am not ok with the amount of THEIR texting is me controlling things????
2025-11-08 01:31:10
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PhOenix625 :
Agree kind of? In this context yes. Inappropriate wanting control. Telling someone that their inconsistency with communication is hurtful, and than backing off is a boundary.
2025-11-08 06:36:25
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monstarmama03 :
I dont think i agree, communicating a need that matters to you isnt control, its setting your standards and teaching them how you want to be treated
2025-11-08 17:58:03
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Katie Marie :
Then what do we do
2025-11-08 18:38:34
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FindTheRoadHome :
Having standards is not control. Forcing someone to meet them is, but walking away when it's clear your standards don't align is a boundary.
2025-11-11 14:46:06
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Maria S. :
I wanted him to text me less. Not because I didnt want to hear from him. But I would get my phone blown up every second and there would be 10 messages in a row as a sentence. It became a matter of overstimulating and personal space boundary.
2025-11-09 02:46:41
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Segments of Dottore :
what... so me telling my partner to please not ghost me for 3 days is abuse now...?
2025-11-14 04:40:33
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iloveyou :
so youre saying its not okay to ask for them to put more effort into the relationship?
2025-11-10 09:05:15
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Esther :
Saying they HAVE to do anything is controlling, communicating the type of relationship you want to have is healthy
2025-11-12 23:41:57
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Cozy :
Ope so communication is important and if someone is not communicating with me…they’re gone. That’s not control, that’s respecting my time.
2025-11-10 19:54:08
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Joana :
Agree to disagree!! Everyone’s communication style is different and that doesn’t make them controlling!
2025-11-08 05:05:04
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Lou-Anne :
Can we PLEASEEEEE stop with the « if you do that, you are that » « if he does this, he is this » EVERY relationship is different, we have to stop saying things like there are always true for every relationship. Every case is different, every body is different, and you never know who is going to hear it, how is going to interpret it and what is he going to do with it.
2025-11-18 22:42:30
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Jenica Desiré :
If you’re not ok with how someone is then don’t be with that kind of person. Constantly demanding change or something new is awful for both of parts.
2025-12-05 05:30:14
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Transhuman :
I’m not gonna tell them they need to text more. If you wanna wait hours between texts after we established connection. Cya
2025-11-08 19:48:08
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☽⛥𝔗𝔥𝔢ℭ𝔯𝔦𝔪𝔰𝔬𝔫⛥☾ :
I'm single currently but I would ask my partners to text me more because they wouldn't text me very much or you know just generally talk to me more I didn't care if it was a phone call or otherwise I just wanted the connection. But it wasn't a boundary. I just asked if they'd be willing to work with me. They weren't.
2025-11-08 19:28:02
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JayfeVT :
lol, no
2025-11-10 02:07:37
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imen ghrab :
Not 100% because of its in the beginning, it called sharing your preferences in communication and the way you like it to be if both have a different way so better to talk about it and find a way in between otherwise it will not work out and later will be kind of control and frustration for the other part.
2025-11-10 11:37:16
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Photography Your Way Boston :
I agree with that 100%. I have been guilty of that in my past. I am working on it. I just don’t act when I feel like that.
2025-11-09 22:08:10
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Wonder_woman_mary :
I need to work on this
2025-11-08 00:23:02
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Alyssa :
Yes 👏🏼! Also, nothing romantic or genuine about feeling forced to connect. You either compromise and adjust or find a partner who communicates in a way you’re more comfortable with.
2025-11-08 00:34:45
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alwaysmending :
This goes for telling them who to follow on social media too.
2025-11-08 13:22:14
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Evan :
I tell people it’s a two way street, I will only message first so much but if I notice they aren’t trying, I will stop trying
2025-12-10 02:01:39
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data_over_drama :
Really depends on a context!
2025-12-11 15:38:05
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KrystalKay78 :
Damn that’s 🔥…🤯
2025-12-05 12:49:11
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