Leslie Wells Connection Coach
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WWizzy :
I had this self realization this week. We’re always fighting until I actually listened. I’m not giving her enough to feel secure so she’s always anxious. All our fights are due to avoiding deeper talks and I feel serious guilt now over it. Person I love shouldn’t feel like that
2025-12-01 13:52:33
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Ms.Gigi🇵🇦🇺🇸 :
What about the DA that says "This is just who I am & I'm not going to change" I'm in the middle of a divorce because he refuses to try & work on our problems.
2025-11-24 19:43:50
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April 🌞 :
4 1/2 years with a DA everything you have said was my relationship our problems we were having never changed he decided to go to counseling shortly after started pulling away then said we just wasn’t capable we wanted different things etc and left the relationship this was a shock to me a very heartbreaking and then he stated a new relationship within a few weeks it’s been 8 mths now he’s still with the new relationship and I been left devastated with it all
2026-04-26 16:59:34
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A blk mother. :
Justified hate. They hurt others. They aren’t narcs. They are worse because they are so self focused and self centered and blind to the problems they are creating. I have childhood trauma too. Some how I manage to be self aware and work on myself self and be introspective. I can actually self correct and apologize for my shortcomings.
2025-11-29 01:03:10
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Moonshine Lady :
DAs are not nessecerily narcs, but they do have a lot of narc traits and I'm getting kinda sick of hearing people make excuses for really bad behaviour.
2026-01-02 13:23:31
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kkd6694 :
Sure but the way they treat their loved ones isn’t acceptable at all and narcissist adjacent bc lack of total empathy
2025-11-25 01:32:29
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Tiffany_Janell :
I knew he had narcissistic traits. But I could nvr call him that #1 because Im not a Dr & #2 because I KNOW he loves me. I knew he was hurting me & I pinpointed the arguments started any time I came to him w an issue- no matter how nicely I spoke. But I just knew it wasn't intentional. Also, I definitely thought in the beginning he must have mimicked what he knew I needed/ tricked me. This is so reassuring & interesting to hear.
2026-02-22 01:46:50
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Loreleileansin :
What about the DA that doesn’t bail? My ex (22 years) never left a relationship-his partners eventually leave after they realize it’s never going to change.
2025-11-23 07:07:03
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L❤️ :
How long does someone stay with an avoidant? 25 yrs and it is just getting worse. I am just a shell now, barely speak because it is always my fault, i am always the problem.
2025-12-27 22:12:52
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NoNameGhost :
My DA tendencies didnt show up until her constant anxiety, fear, self centeredness, and rejection started harming me emotionally. Once the hurt showed up, I closed off to protect myself. I find your explanation awfully deceiving about how we blame. I didnt shut down until the pain, not blaming her without cause. You're communicating this like the DA is the cause of the collapse but blame the other. I will always believe it takes two to destroy a relationship. My relationship *might* be different if I was able to process pain differently, I'll take that responsibility. But I didnt destroy my relationship all on my own.
2025-12-03 19:51:49
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Roger/CD-Rowena❌ :
Is there a way to successfully bring this up to them? If I notice the behavior, how do I broach the subject? Or do I? What’s the best course of action if you want to continue the relationship?
2025-12-04 14:24:16
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joseph.semmens :
They absolutely have a choice.
2025-12-11 20:14:11
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Sheila Ahrens :
Any idea how a DA would react if asked to watch this video?
2026-01-02 02:25:08
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DONE! :
im not responsible to fix them im.there to support them if they need me she discarded me 8 months ago we have 2 boys together !
2025-12-15 19:37:50
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cowgalchic :
I think avoidant can have narcissistic traits!
2025-12-22 21:09:49
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Him Her :
Sounds like who l deal with
2025-11-19 02:15:13
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Christina :
It truly only last the first 6 months to 1 year.
2025-11-21 19:02:09
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Ginger Lynn :
We’re in the power struggle phase. Anytime i bring up any topic he shuts down. Just lays down and closes his eyes. Wants to pretend nothing is wrong
2025-12-01 18:40:11
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🌷𝓚𝔂𝓵𝓲𝓮🌷 :
He went to therapy. I saw the change. We got married now it worse then ever!!
2025-12-13 07:10:29
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BFit1551 :
Can you help mend and bring together an avoidant and an anxious person?
2025-11-23 19:01:32
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Sarah Harrison :
Why do we not learn about this in high school
2025-12-15 22:04:31
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freebirddtx :
Dissociation!
2025-12-10 20:29:15
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Char Aznable :
I like how you made the note about people overusing “Narcissist” and people still throw it around on the comments. Anyway, good video!!8’ currently learning more about this subject to help navigate my DA relationship, as an anxious type.
2026-01-15 18:20:43
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HAP :
Having the capacity resonates. If they don’t have the capacity the awareness never leads to improving the relationship (in my opinion). If you stay w/DA’s you have to have your own secure attachment in check to muster through it 😔
2025-12-05 11:25:57
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Mr send :
ma am.... u are 1000% spot on.... there are things u have mentioned that ive seen first hand.... thank u for ur words.... and also it can be fixed ... only took 5 yrs
2025-12-12 12:20:37
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