@nicknamed.bree: 🌶️ 🐠 Fearful avoidants come in all flavors & sizes, but there are some things that most of us have in common. In this video, I break down a few KEY pieces of information about disorganized attachment. If you want to make it work with someone with a fearful avoidant attachment style, make sure they are seeking professional support outside of the relationship to address their early trauma.

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cheddar.wood
intersmellar :
can you give us an example of a firm, impenetrable boundary?
2025-11-30 01:17:00
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randomnames09
randomnames09 :
My rule is, treat me the way I treat you because if you don’t, I will treat you the way I feel you are treating me. Seems simple but so many fail. I
2025-11-15 10:16:48
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jamiehutchison3
Jamie Hutchison :
I feel like the DA is way worse than the FA
2025-12-07 10:04:30
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ukmrsgray
UKmrsgray | American in the UK :
Problem is is that I was VERY secure and he made me anxious lol
2025-11-15 14:14:46
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sistu90
SiStu90 :
Almost impossible to make it work with a FA if they are unaware of their attachment style and you do not know it either. Doomed to fail
2025-11-15 10:17:11
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timothy.mayo1
Timothy Mayo :
Sometimes you can do whatever they ask and then they move the goalposts
2025-12-23 16:09:33
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quietlysovereign
quietlysovereign :
It’s so damaging to their partner
2025-12-01 03:43:00
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papazfritaz11
pops :
so what if you match almost all these characteristics except for the deregulation part
2025-11-14 13:23:14
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jalsh85
Jalsh :
I would have thought DAs are the most difficult
2025-11-22 02:55:28
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bigmamatyranitar
Bigmama :
👀 so I needed this before the break up. but u know lol😂
2025-11-14 16:26:21
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ianeindridi
Ian :
Walk away, otherwise you get hurt every other day
2025-11-17 06:02:41
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jnutz_24
jnutz24 :
I believe its top tier to grow and heal with someone. If you can be consistent with a DA/FA and grow that relationship it will be incredibly rewarding. Unfortunately most never make it to this point
2025-11-14 01:51:17
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jayyyteo
Jay | Quantitative Investing :
You can’t heal someone who doesn’t wish to be healed. The world doesn’t revolve around any of the attachment styles. Let’s all do the inner work first.
2025-11-22 10:20:03
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piteka5
John Porter 99 :
My great question is what you mean by setting boundaries, give me some examples
2025-11-16 02:36:59
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amzo7819
annamafela :
now it makes sense ,ive triggered his trust issues now it has been hell and nightmare.
2026-01-03 17:56:14
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taylorayee
taylor :
It’s kinda confusing bc they don’t want to be controlled, but the firm boundaries feel a bit like control
2025-11-14 22:59:18
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introverted_sloth
Gigi Jen :
Well dang girlie. It’s a good thing I find puffer fish intriguing since I will now refer to myself as one. 😂 btw, your hair look oks great!
2025-11-16 05:05:30
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user3511094572400
y1n :
I love my FA wife, never bored
2025-12-11 06:06:05
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coolbackpack
backpack :
You had me til “firm, impenetrable boundaries,” and “that’s toxic and we’re not gonna do that” 😞 (this is kind of a joke)
2025-11-13 21:34:26
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mihaidumitrescu20
Mihai Dumitrescu :
at least a puffer fish is there when you mostly need it. it doesn't go anywhere when you least expect it. it's not at all funny when you are considered needy, just for expressing basic needs in a relationship. I'm very curious: how do you see yourself?
2025-12-18 12:12:09
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homeschooleddropout
homeschooleddropout :
food w/o spice is boring.
2025-12-22 21:42:58
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milos.adzic
Milos :
insane video to watch as someone with disorganized bc you perfectly nailed it in a way no one else has, first time i believed someone claiming to be one cuz u really do get it
2025-12-10 09:09:28
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josh_142296
josh_29 :
don't they move the goal post
2025-11-18 20:00:19
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mistevievous
✩.⍣✩⚢🍒mistevieous🍒⚢✩.⍣✩ :
i have it, and i actually mostly have healed most of my avoidant tendencies, and i’m working on and making good progress on the anxious components. although i will say i have a third new reaction i discovered which is freezing lmaooo (i mean ig technically that’s a form of avoidance but better than running for the hills)
2025-12-08 15:25:35
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chiefd1969
ChiefD1969 :
This is true. So true
2025-12-03 04:07:32
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