Abby Rodman | Psychotherapist
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Billy River :
How many undiagnosed narcissists are there in the US percentage wise. I heard that it’s less than 1 percent but I don’t know if that’s accurate
2025-11-16 00:05:21
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Nick :
Left my narcissist husband 2 days ago. I feel so releived!!
2025-11-15 04:56:47
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Lynnette Huston 🇺🇲 :
This is so accurate! Weeks of silence as punishment. He made it so unbearable that the pain of leaving was less than the pain to stay.
2025-11-15 01:03:20
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Narcissist recovering :
When a Narcissist Sees You Confident and Calm — They Lose Control Because You’re No Longer Their Puppet Have you ever noticed how a narcissist starts to act nervous when you stop reacting to their games? When you stop explaining yourself, stop defending, stop chasing — suddenly, they don’t know what to do. When a narcissist sees you confident and calm, they lose control because you’re no longer their puppet. Here are five emotional reasons why this makes them spiral — and number five will completely change how you see them. 1. Your Calm Exposes Their Chaos. Narcissists thrive in drama. They love emotional reactions — tears, shouting, confusion — because that gives them control. But when you stay calm, you take away their favorite weapon: chaos. Your peace becomes a mirror reflecting their instability. And that’s unbearable for them. They’ll push harder, trying to get a reaction, because silence feels like defeat. 2. Your Confidence Shatters Their Superiority Illusion. They built their ego by convincing you that you were the problem — too emotional, too sensitive, too needy. But when you become confident, self-assured, and grounded, that illusion crumbles. You no longer need their approval to feel worthy. Every time you stand tall, it reminds them that their power was an illusion all along — and that realization terrifies them. 3. They Can’t Manipulate What They Can’t Control. The narcissist’s entire game depends on your reactions. If you stop engaging, their manipulation loses oxygen. They can’t guilt-trip you, they can’t gaslight you, and they can’t provoke you into arguments. You’ve become emotionally untouchable — and that’s their biggest nightmare. That’s why when they see you calm and unbothered, they start losing control, desperate to find a new way to get under your skin. 4. They Feel Replaced by Your Inner Strength. To a narcissist, your dependence was their validation. When you needed them, they felt powerful. Now that you’re confident, self-reliant, and peaceful, they feel irrelevant. It’s not just that you’ve outgrown them — it’s that you’ve replaced their importance with your own inner peace. That shift wounds their ego deeply, and they’ll do an
2025-11-16 17:08:35
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Andrew :
Yep… you do everything you can to keep the relationship and family together. In return they continue to lie and cheat
2025-11-15 07:52:17
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Jaime :
And you know what? In the end, you got away and a win is a win. They will continue to live a miserable lie of a life while you will grow and love life again.
2025-11-15 12:09:46
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katherinerickey :
Literally checked myself into a treatment center when I left. I was there for 3 months.
2025-11-16 13:56:35
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Cindy :
Then pop back up later
2025-11-15 01:10:09
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TennJeannie :
I’ve never looked at it from this perspective but that’s exactly what happened.
2025-11-15 02:11:35
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1blondeaussie 🦘 :
By the time I ended it I was so ill I couldn’t walk. I was beyond broken. Not any more. ❤️
2025-11-15 00:45:58
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Rhiannon Hodges :
you know honestly, I couldn't care less which one of us ended it. im just glad that I dont feel nervous, anxious and upset 24.7 and that i dont have to cry daily anymore wondering what I ever did to deserve the lies, deceipt and general unkindness. I had nothing left in me to give, and im more than happy to be considered the villain.
2025-11-16 22:55:47
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Darla Suzanne :
This is the Best explanation I have ever heard♥️
2025-11-16 15:57:56
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✌️☀️ :
I finally found myself and left. I can’t believe I endured it for a decade.
2025-11-16 14:21:18
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SRP1973 :
The reverse discard broke me 😔💔
2025-11-15 01:46:45
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Busy Bree :
This made me very emotional and validated, thank you for everything you do ❤️
2025-11-15 12:24:03
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Flowerpower_49 :
Best description I have ever heard! No truer words have ever said. Not ending the relationship was the best move I ever made💙
2025-11-16 07:13:26
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J Mac W :
I so needed to read that today ❤
2025-11-15 08:56:56
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Candy Love :
AND BE GRATEFUL FOR IT!
2025-11-15 21:57:53
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Sketchy Chef :
Exactly
2025-11-15 18:06:07
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BB Cake & Clay artist :
well it wasn't actualy a "relationship" 😅
2025-11-15 04:36:47
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Platinum Jen :
I told my husband that he abandoned me long before I said I want a divorce.
2025-11-16 04:09:43
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Crown Vault Healing :
Truth
2025-11-15 22:04:52
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Mariela.Lachezarova :
Narcs adore playing the victim and no matter ho much you've sacrificed for them, it would never be enough! Choose yourself and leave safely! It hurts like hell at first, but I promise after a while you start to breathe again and little by little joy starts to visit you more and more frequently 💗
2025-11-15 18:05:05
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the.red.one83 :
Thank you so much for sharing this with us
2025-11-16 01:26:41
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Eveline Wever :
😂😂😂SO TRUE!! 🤔 Never saw it this way, but you are SO right!! 😂😂😂
2025-11-16 21:42:59
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