@itsamymillie: You can’t have reciprocity if you’re the one caretaking.

@CloudGardenFairy🧚‍♀️✨️ :

My therapist said, " stop giving people versions of you, and try to live just a you." 🥺

hellokttybrkin :

at least you greeted me first

evdc34 :

do we not owe a certain degree of care to each other?

maro✂️ :

the " hi bb" is healing me slowly

June :

but what if that's the only way i can sustain that relationship? what can i do?

yasmine ✞ .ೃ✧ :

It actually affects both people. When someone steps into that role, the other person ends up feeling like they’re not being trusted to handle things normally. And the person doing the caretaking ends up changing how they act and not being fully themselves. It creates this weird pressure on both sides instead of letting things stay honest and natural.

Just Lexy :

“You can’t build a reciprocal relationship from a place where you’re holding everything together”—🔪 OOOOOOF 😭

To Melinaki :

"You have to stop editing yourself" hit hard

🌟Timmy🍶 :

You hit the nail on the head, Amy. Thank you 🥹

- Lemon Bread - :

my bf puts it like "you're setting my boundaries for me" which isn't fair to him it's up to his own judgement whether he can or can't handle something, not me it's hard to remember sometimes, but i'm getting better

i_suckidy_suck :

but then everybody would leave cause they still can't cope with what I have to say... it's a choice between loneliness and self-abandonment

rose :

Twisting the knife at this point.

𝐤𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐞 :

“hi baby”

Chloé Layne :

lara_k73 :

I can’t find people that can cope with the uncensored version of me 😢 that is why I keep censoring myself 😮‍💨

CharlieDoingCharlieStuff :

didn't ask for this call out 😭

J :

hi baby I have bpd. If I don't manage what I have to say to people I'd have no one left 🙃

snhifix :

yo so I was about to sleep

Sabrina Riley :

Honestly all the editing I've ever done didn't really make anything survivable. I thought it was. But it was actually so incredibly painful

ᑎᗩᑎᗩ🌸 :

What’s the difference between not managing what you say when someone can’t cope with what you tell them and not being blunt? Because sometimes the truth hurts. And I genuinely wouldn’t want to withhold it from anyone.

satiwateelifts :

how do you discern between stepping into a caretaker role versus saying your words in a way that doesn’t feel as much of an attack

✧ 𝕿𝖊𝖓𝖉𝖊𝖗 𝕳𝖔𝖔𝕶𝖘 ✧ :

complicated when it’s my own mother

c.h :

my fyp really said for YOU today 😭

Gemini Barbie :

but what if I'm a psychopath and my takes are wrong 😭😭

:) :

How do you balance this with all the books saying you should always be composed and talk in a calculated "I statement" way?