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Adriana :
Nobody is changing for another person… People change when they notice that their pattern isn’t benefiting them and causes them pain. If someone changes “for the next person” they probably didn’t change at all… and if they do it’s cause they changed for THEMSELVES.
2025-11-18 22:06:15
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_mentallyimhere_ :
Who can honestly say they’re changed? It is soooo difficult to break habits, much less change your personality/ patterns that are rooted subconsciously. I think we give people too much credit and fall into this trap bc it’s our deep fear they’ll be different with someone else. But tbh no one is changing.
2025-11-20 02:11:51
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ddanicaliforniaa :
They only change if there is consequences
2025-11-24 23:10:57
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birdiewolf :
I think people care about this too much. They changed, they don’t change, who cares. What matters more than anything is that they weren’t it for you. Also I think this ‘change’ conversation is very deflective. If you really want to know if people can change for the ‘right’ person ask yourself that question. Did you change for a person? Have you changed because someone wanted you to? Why? Why not? Was it temporary? How did it feel?
2025-11-26 19:41:13
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Pey 💜 :
One thing about it is people will mirror what you want them to be but their true character always peeks through & reveals itself. So you are right they have to want to change for their self. It don’t matter how many good people they come across because if that’s the case why didn’t they change for that person & what make you think you are any different ?
2025-11-20 16:08:38
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MorohaChan :
As a former avoidant I can guarantee nobody changes for anyone. My mom was the only one that motivated me to change but she was my mom and even so she didn’t do the work for me I had to realize I needed to change to make my life better. There is no power on earth that makes someone change only their own realization.
2025-11-21 00:42:33
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Gianna.cardoso :
i believe, you and your partner should both be teaching each other.. to continue to progress in life together. and yes you have to be willing to show up for yourself. that way they notice, you already do it for yourself… Why shouldn’t they do the same for themselves too?
2025-11-18 21:13:08
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gentle_phoenix1 :
As a person who changed, I changed for myself. I was tired of feeling the same way for years.
2025-12-01 07:32:06
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newtiktokhoesssomymymomm :
I feel that You can inspire someone to change but can u change for the women / man for yourself? nah. You would have to change for yourself so I agree but there are people that can inspire you. Only God and yourself can change you. It also depends on what type of change. I feel like cheating it depends on the man, some people really need HELP. It’s a demon psychological thing. Other men do change when they see a women they want. But even then they are imperfect in that relationship. You would have to work with them patiently. To allow them to be themselves and to hold them accountable.
2025-11-19 05:54:21
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Jessie 🕯️🖤🌵 :
It’s giving fairytale lol
2025-12-24 05:52:32
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jonnyrotten :
A well matched couple voluntarily changes for each other. That’s as far as it goes.
2025-11-27 02:22:40
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kristi.m.lopez :
honestly after a certain point people don't change they just find people who are compatible with their way of thinking or they just have brief relationships that end for the same reason
2025-12-29 01:37:08
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ghoulpoolparty :
it just feels like people change for the right person because we assume the new relationship is going well but they couldn't make it work with us. Reality is the new person requires less to be happy or has their own trauma that makes it so they will put up with more and they are also toxic AF.
2026-01-02 17:21:34
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Sky15reb :
I think people are also not looking at this as you shouldn’t be changing your entire personality and who you are deep down as a person. It’s more of like bad habits that you should be changing and starting better habits if they were causing issues in a relationship or they are just boundaries for you.Like I’m about to be 30 unfortunately I do live next to a college so a lot of people just like to go to bars, but I wanna be with someone who doesn’t wanna go to a bar all the time.
2025-11-29 13:41:27
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unsavoryvenus :
People only say this to devalue the other people that they mistreated. Regardless of whether someone is the wrong person or right person, you treating them poorly or not changing your negative behavior is a reflection of YOU
2025-11-26 00:56:36
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piperquiche :
Yep, they change when they’re ready. While I think having a great partner you don’t want to let down ~can~ have an affect, I think 100% it ultimately comes down to them feeling ready themselves
2025-11-27 05:57:43
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Sandia Marie Rubenac :
Thank you for the response ❤️Humans, regardless of gender, are influenced by their relationships and social environment. Research shows that men, like women, often adjust behaviors, priorities, and habits when inspired by someone they care about. This change is not about performing for someone else, but about how meaningful relationships can motivate self-reflection, emotional growth, and practical shifts in daily life. For example, a man might adopt healthier habits, communicate more openly, or rethink priorities when influenced by a partner. Meeting the right person can spark growth in ways that might not occur alone—it’s a reflection of how human motivation and social influence work. There's actually truth in both perspectives, but were looking at them from slightly different angles.
2025-11-18 21:23:14
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tata :
I feel like you naturally change with the right person because you learn their habits, hopes, dreams, communication style and mimic it until it’s your natural practice. But when it needs to be explicitly stated, that’s when I feel like it’s performative or doesnt have longevity. Like that’s when it doesn’t feel authentic to me.
2025-11-28 01:07:19
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j :
He told me that before we were in a relationship, he’s changed already and I only brought out that attitude/behavior.
2025-11-19 02:17:44
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madammarauder :
a person is who they is. they will always be that way. it may stop for a short period of time but it’ll come back eventually. it may be 1 week or 20 years but it will come back.
2025-11-25 06:33:26
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