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DianaP :
Society has always been so unfair to women.
2025-11-27 20:37:14
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Lin :
To think there could be one good man who saw women as human 💔
2025-12-02 12:41:50
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kmn_kauai :
As a widow much of this persists to this day. So the next time you see a widow in a new relationship or even contemplating dating and you’re tempted to say “isn’t it a little soon” remember you are part of the problem and it doesn’t get better until we all decide to stop policing people we can’t even begin to understand.
2025-12-12 11:28:46
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jelena.ljubav :
I used to think this practice was so romantic, since I actually like the idea of publicly showing your grieving for someone you loved. But finding out it was completely one-sided and men didn’t adhere to the same custom for their wives… yea, not so romantic anymore
2025-12-12 07:21:21
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bigjuicyjinger :
Also if a man was in mourning and found a woman he wanted to court, he could end the mourning period early
2025-12-13 04:53:41
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yeetmetohell | free palestine :
technically, the mourning period (full black) was to exclude a pregnancy (so that when remarriage happened - or not - the child could be attributed to the dead spouse)
2025-12-26 05:14:57
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Babylon the Bored :
Feels like a final humiliation ritual 😔💗💗
2025-12-07 20:11:39
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chatgrand67 :
I read that because Queen Victoria, only allowed mourning black, on her Royal estates. including horse carriages. Everyone wanted to look like they had been invited. So black became the fashion. And the reason carriages & hansom cabs/taxis are now all black. 🙂
2026-01-09 20:00:05
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randomuser :
I get it but also I’m sure some of them felt relief to be left alone for 2 years.
2025-12-21 16:50:57
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matilda belle 🦢 :
they hate us. they truly hate us
2026-01-10 09:38:46
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Anacorn :
You left out the part where the queen was the primary supporter (basically enforcer considering her social influence) of this custom. Her era was much more culturally conservative than others.
2025-11-27 20:35:54
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lizzie :
One thing that’s important to note is a lot of Victorian women used the doctrine of separate spheres (the idea women were physically weak but morally superior, a concept used to divide and separate and keep women ‘in the home’ as well as why they had to mourn for longer) to their advantage by becoming Spiritualists. They took the concept of mourning and death and made it their own by participating in seances and other practices in a darkened room surrounded by other women (because women were ‘morally superior’ they had full control over seances and led them, even with male participants). Whilst trapped in a society that constrained them with mourning, women still found ways to express themselves and their feelings. There have always been tiny acts of defiance, it’s just hard to remember them in a history dominated by men
2025-11-29 15:49:01
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yeet_or_be_yonked :
🙂🙂🙂
2025-12-21 16:20:57
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niko :
@𝒜𝓋𝒶𝓁𝑜𝓃 ⋆ history fact check this pleaseee
2025-12-14 17:42:42
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Huntress/Hunter :
@meowster
2025-12-04 01:16:21
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✹A :
💀💀💀
2025-12-28 06:40:37
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Hallo Captain Finatic :
A woman had to be “churched” after giving birth before re-entering society. To cleanse her from the “sin” of childbirth… everything about her existence was sinful and unclean. Even when it isn’t her fault
2025-12-11 09:03:04
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yasmin ౨ৎ :
oh they hated us so much
2025-11-29 15:09:33
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Li :
they hate us so much...
2025-11-28 17:55:22
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annalee :
we were literally always made to grieve more on purpose by the hands of men. I’m so tired
2025-12-04 09:27:57
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𝙻𝙻𝙻 :
men felt missed so little they had to force women to act like they missed them
2025-12-07 16:41:51
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