@keylimelanna: It’s a survival tactic and as a girls girl, I’m not shaming the pick me girl, I empathize with her, because she deserves grace, as I know these things are less individual and more effects of systemic oppression and patriarchy. #girlsgirl #pickme

britta :

This changed my entire perspective on pick mes, thank you so much

Brieboard :

We don’t have to shame but we can definitely speak up, educate, & empower fellow women to free themselves from the patriarchy effects

SinglemomNokids :

Yesssss we were all pick mes at one point/ give the younger girls grace and time and community

Pinkpillowsandstars :

It’s fine for women to call each other out and help breaks the chain, but a man who helped build the chain has no right to laugh at a prisoner.

user5314305128531 :

sigh I'll be nicer

Pissgurl :

I’m literally a lesbian and I still catch myself wanting to be the “cool fav girl” like it’s not as simple as just stopping, we need to WORK on unlearning things, it’s a process!!

Charlotte Victoria E :

Yeah it’s not their word to use

Christina :

I have to admit I hate pickmes because I was once one

🅼🅸🅽🅸🅶🅴🅼🆂 :

Kezi 🦋 :

You’re doing the Lords work

Cricket 🦗 :

This changed my perspective entirely on pick mes and I will be gentler about them going forward.

Salem86_X :

It’s genetic information at this point. Male validation equaled survival Up until very recent. That programming doesn’t just go away. I think we’re doing the best we can. 😭

sigourney.weiner :

Queen you dropped this 👑

rae 🦦 :

thank you for saying this bc we should be talking about it actually

☆𝓒𝓱𝓵𝓸☆ :

Wait... you have a point

Nat :

I kinda love the emotion im feeling from this thx

🌌♠️🌈𝗯𝗶𝗴 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝘆🌈♠️🌌 :

I love everyone saying this changed their perspective and they'll be nicer now I love you guys

miketta :

you right, let me have more grace with my sisters 💕

Plushbabies :

You know what… I will be more considerate

ladyluck :

Unpopular opinion I think is CRUCIAL shaming on them

✨it’s all just a ride✨ :

Yesssssss. One day I realized I was being a misogynist for judging other women for not being as far along in their journey as me.

thefitempress :

THANK YOU! We JUST got here. If it wasn’t for Shera we’d still be in the trenches

cosmic.cherry.prints :

Thank you for this perspective

blackpetals.mp4 :

embarrassed to admit i’m 30 and still trying to unlearn this. it is so difficult and i try not to feel ugly.

bruddawhat26 :

Wow na u right fr