Therapist here: Shame is fine. It’s a highly adaptive skill that we were never taught to understand. It’s helpful when it leans into accountability. It’s harmful when it leads to social self neglect. Same with guilt. Guilt is helpful when it brings us towards making amends. Guilt is not helpful when it focuses on punishment.
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Kate & Koda🐾 :
"Accountability says 'I can see your experiences without abandoning myself.' and shame says 'I am the worst thing that you've ever done.'"
2025-12-02 02:30:09
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Gon :
"You cannot protect the ones you love while shame is protecting you"
2025-12-02 07:28:01
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_ :
The irony of avoiding accountability is that it DOES make you dangerous. The very thing people want to avoid.
2025-12-02 10:38:56
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Strangerinastrangeland :
Shame is so deeply interwoven through all the systems that govern our subconscious that we govern ourselves with it. It’s THE tool. Deconstruction of shame is necessary.
2025-12-01 23:04:08
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Ozeanastronaut :
early to the modern philosopher
2025-12-01 22:53:21
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Architect :
Welcome back Aristotle.
2025-12-02 07:10:41
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222 :
My show is on
2025-12-01 23:12:04
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dark.mabon :
Standing on business with this one. I like it, Picasso.
2025-12-01 22:57:37
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Aydreeun :
every video you post is unpausable
2025-12-01 22:58:23
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Juhwooce :
"and accountability belongs in the room" HOLY BAR 👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥
2025-12-02 05:11:19
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Mercedes_williams :
Running from accountability because the shame and guilt are too much.
2025-12-01 23:11:18
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nm00nz :
Guilt says 'I did wrong'. Shame days ' I am wrong'.
2025-12-02 01:22:26
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Xan :
Justin your writing is SUPREME. Everyday I hope your words reach more and more people, because if anyone or anything deserves to be known by everyone, it's you and your writing.
2025-12-01 22:46:35
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Dizzy :
“because you cannot protect the people you love, while shame is protecting you”
2025-12-03 18:33:59
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Zenith :
The illumination is wonderful
2025-12-02 18:36:55
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Honeylemonss :
YOU EAT EVERY SINGLE TIMEEEEE ✨💕
2026-01-14 21:45:43
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Akari :
“Accountability is not the destruction of your identity. Its proof that you still have one”
2025-12-02 16:55:23
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fluffy :
i WANT to know how i am affecting someone
2025-12-02 22:42:48
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Louie Mu🐏 :
I tell people it’s okay to feel guilt and shame. Shame makes me hold myself accountable
2025-12-02 09:37:39
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Sarahelise :
This man always be preachin
2025-12-02 02:17:07
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Raeantics :
Consistent mindfulness is the rarest commodity.
2025-12-02 00:10:03
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Jaz <3 :
"accountability is not distruction of identity, its proof you have one"
Accountability > Shame
shame makes facts feelings and shrouds every conscious decision framed from it. DAAAAAYYUM
2025-12-02 11:20:40
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