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JunkKat1313 :
I used to love my job and was hyper focused on completing projects and was proud of my work. now that I've gotten frustrated with my job I lost all my passion and can't even force myself to work on a project and it's triggering my depression to avoid it further
2025-12-04 14:37:45
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Emily :
Transitionssssssss are my least favorite thing in the entire world.
2025-12-04 19:07:22
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katie 🍊 :
yes! we don’t need to ADD MORE plans or notebooks or research. we need REMOVE obstacles/barriers. don’t hit the gas, look for what’s pumping the brakes
2025-12-04 20:12:03
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sae bby :
I got one of those super small frying pans that only fit 1 egg and it makes me cook eggs so much more often for myself bcs it’s so much smaller of a pan to clean. It seemed silly but I did use it way more than a regular sized pan
2025-12-05 18:14:01
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Alexandra Guryeva :
will there be a video covering executive dysfunction and momentum in physical exercise? coaches and pts love to yap about motivation coming from within that must keep you going to do your workouts and be disciplined and accountable. i've never understood where to get te kind of motivation that will make me like change my entire personality lol, and the only thing that kinda works is when it is outsorced motivation, when i have to go bc i know i paid for the pt session or something like that. its not a very good feeling when exactly the thing i cant handle well is supposed to be the basis of a routine and suddenly become habitual
2025-12-06 06:19:19
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rollingacooooorns :
Brushing my teeth and washing my face is miserable because the water drips down my arms 😩 takes me hours to psyche myself up to finally do
2025-12-22 08:17:23
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youreverydayjenny💛💙 :
yes this is so important to understand. one example for me - I have big sensory friction with getting into the shower, so I recently put a space heater in my bathroom to heat it up before I need to disrobe and get in, and it helps so much!
2025-12-04 03:47:17
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Awakening :
Making decisions is by far my biggest friction
2025-12-04 09:14:45
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Emily :
Thisssss. ESP at work when I have to authenticate passwords to log in anywhere to even START a task. 😂
2025-12-03 22:43:37
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:) :
i keep my vacuum plugged into the wall in my living room so it’s always visible and ready to use.. idc if it looks ugly it works!
2025-12-08 15:52:27
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KnockKnockItsRitter :
It’s also not that we are unaware (sometimes) of those frictions…it’s that we shame ourselves SO much for them.
2025-12-07 17:43:45
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Pixxy Styxx :
Sequencing friction! Thank you for the term. I often say "I can't do __ because there's too many steps" and nobody knows what I'm talking about because to them it's just like... making coffee or something.
2025-12-08 04:34:54
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Coldtofurkey :
I call it reducing friction in my life! Making small changes like getting long chargers everywhere
2025-12-04 11:20:55
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K :
And trying to explain that just thinking through the tasks has already used up the energy I needed to do those tasks is so confusing for people without this issue. Like I just visualized getting dressed and what I need to do to make a plan and the 300 things required - now I need a nap.
2025-12-05 17:18:25
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Halpo's Fish and Prints :
what's my friction? yes.
2025-12-04 14:18:54
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tina :
my therapist never understood what i meant when i was trying to get at this. i don't need to make a more rigorous schedule for myself to follow to the letter, i need to find ways to get and stay moving
2026-01-03 09:12:37
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Chia 💙 :
This is literally the single best explanation I've seen in describing how my executive disfunction seems to work as a neurodivergent 😭
2025-12-05 22:08:36
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E 🍉🍉🍉 :
After I got diagnosed & medicated for ADHD at the age of 40, I realized how hard I made life for myself by trying to “follow the rules” of life - like what you were saying about your mom keeping the medicine in the kitchen.
2025-12-06 03:20:17
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Rayel ❤️🔥📖 :
I’m a therapist for individuals who have adhd and have adhd myself and I am aware this was a thing but thank you for actually defining it! This was so great and informative 🤩
2026-01-13 17:59:34
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JaykwellinMuhree :
Putting my shoes on effectively gets me out of executive dysfunction 80% of the time.
2025-12-03 22:22:25
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My name is backwards :
I feel like I’m crying on the inside a little. I’m 25 and have struggled my entire life to explain to my parents why being told to “just do something” feels like a stab in the heart. I’ve felt so pathetic when I tell them things like “no, hunger isn’t motivation enough. If there isn’t something I like to eat around, I’m just not gonna eat. No, the fact that doing *insert random thing here* will make things better LATER isn’t motivation enough, because RIGHT NOW it makes me uncomfortable.” - and many, many more examples. And every time I think I’ve cracked the code and say things like “I figured out that the less I require of myself sometimes, the more I get done” I am met with “but you’ll never get done everything that needs to get done by requiring less. You have to make yourself do it.” Or “ You spend so much time trying to find ways to make things easier, and if you put less effort into working around excuses, and actually simply DO the things, you’d be less stressed.” There are a couple things that I think they have come to accept my methods with (which I am grateful for) but I don’t know how to explain that it’s applicable for all areas. Because telling them that the benefit I feel from doing something has to outweigh the discomfort/overwhelm it causes me in an immediate way, or that for a task to feel achievable I feel like I have to strategize and account for all of the anxiety it’s going to cause before I can even think about starting it, honestly does just make me feel selfish and lazy - especially when every once in a while it seems like I did “just do something” when I feel inside that something was just luckily aligned in a certain way where there was less friction in that instance. And the fact that I feel like I can’t just will that, has them viewing me as unwilling to try I think (despite the fact that I tell them I am trying everyday to come up with ways to be functional) they say “okay but you never actually do it” or “that’s never gonna be effective.” It’s just disheartening because I know that for them willpower is enough and they just want it to be enough for me too. Sorry that was a lot. This just hit home for me.
2025-12-05 07:26:36
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zoë :
this was sooo insightful and explains a ton of my procrastination around assignments. because it’s not just that i need to “do my homework” it’s that i need to open the website and read the instructions and answer each question with an appropriate amount of consideration and then find the words to explain my thoughts! like that’s a lot!!!!
2025-12-06 05:56:50
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✨Laceyyyyy ♒️🧿✨ :
My bedroom is a big mess & I say everyday I’m going to clean it but I just can’t start. What would be removing the friction in this situation?
2025-12-06 01:48:08
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wraler :
I also think that societal standards are making this worse. Because the ”norm” is that doing these tasks aren’t hard. And it’s also a societal norm to judge people that are doing ”less” than you. Which means that ppl around you might tell you that ”it’s not a big deal” ”stop being lazy” etc. Making you start believing that sentiment aswell. Which will cause you to feel bad and forcing you to spend energy in ”bad” ways. Like having to deal with the though of ”why can everyone but me do it”. You’re also being pushed to NOT lessen the friction and just push through Which, and that is rly hard/energy draining to counteract
2025-12-09 20:29:37
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_brie_z :
my biggest hack is starting by just wiggling my toes and eventually moving enough to get up
2025-12-06 12:35:49
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