I raised my kids this way for the most part. I have told them I will work through anything with them that they didn’t like from their childhood. I want to give them attunement and accountability no matter what the age. I know they could uncover hurt from any age and I want them to know I will be accountable and hold space for them. You can’t be a perfect parent so I want them to know they can come to me at any time and say, remember such and such? I didn’t like that. And then we can implement apology and humility and resolution. I don’t have the support of my husband on this because he’s stuck in his own shame cycle and won’t grow emotionally. But I can do this for my children no matter the age!
2026-04-03 17:23:36
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flower :
I’m so envious of this.
2025-12-05 16:57:38
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Carl :
now let's talk about the chances of finding a partner with the skill to apologize, validate and attune to his partner
2025-12-12 13:21:44
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M :
Does this mean the only appropriate time to have a top down approach is with strangers/outsiders/people youre not close with? And the bottom up one for parent to child, between married couples, and perhaps friends too..? Am i understanding this right?
2025-12-06 14:05:05
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