@deardivorcecoach: Cross your arms over your chest and let your hands rest on your upper arms. Tap gently from side to side. Slow, steady, rhythmic taps. This is called butterfly tapping and it helps settle your system when your emotions start to rise. Use it when you feel pulled in too many directions, when a conversation stings, or when the day feels heavier than planned. You guide yourself back to center with your own hands.