@thepsycholotea: Avoidants don’t choose >better< they choose >safer<. Safer for their avoidance, their patterns, and the version of themselves that is easier to be. So please don’t sit there comparing yourself to the “new supply.” Or the person they cheated on you with. Or the person they seem in love with after two weeks (love-bombing much?😉) Don’t assume they’ve transformed into some emotionally available dream partner overnight. They really haven’t. That kind of transformation takes YEARS and dedication and willingness to change. This new person is just an easy escape and a simple reset into something less demanding. Hear me when I say: 🗣️ Easier does not equal better. 🗣️ Less demanding does not equal healthier. 🗣️ Their avoidance is still thriving it’s just wearing a new disguise. So if you find yourself in this position witnessing them with someone new, or just fearing what might happen if things end… it’s this. And the best part is…. None of that is your problem anymore! 💛 Save this if you’re struggling with comparison. 🖤 && Drop a heart if this brought you clarity. #rel#relationshipadvicee#breakuprecovery #exc#nocontacto#avoidant 


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hercomfortzone205
i7 :
They are just starting same cycle with someone who doesn’t know their patterns yet!
2026-01-11 16:15:51
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elli231227
Elli2312 :
This is my daily reminder 🥰
2026-01-16 06:53:58
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jamieyoung154
Jamie :
They did level up and replace me because I couldn’t do right in the relationship. I didn’t change and she gave me so many chances because she loved me and then less than 2 months since we last spoke she’s already on holiday with another guy, I was her first ever relationship aswell which makes this so much more painful plz someone help me understand
2026-01-28 15:31:40
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hasina16
hasina :
It’s why the new supply only lasted 4 months
2026-02-12 23:45:48
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sindrewalseth
S-Man :
that gives me peace 🙏❤️‍🩹
2025-12-29 00:44:19
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n1tya7
n1tya7 :
I found out my avoidant had me as the other woman for three years and married his long term partner this year. I’m so confused. He was seriously anti-marriage. There was no sign of her in our relationship..i struggle to understand why he chose her and not me. I didn’t even know she existed until 7 months after he ghosted me..he blocked me everywhere and changed his number when i reached out after 5 months of no contact and 2 months later he was married and that’s when i discovered her..can you please help explain this? Why her? Why not me? What did any of this mean?
2025-12-17 00:05:54
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user1742435951332
KraneMan69 :
8 years on/off, last 5 months we've never got on so well and she says she's not sure. I'm done, don't chase an avoidant it's exhausting 🙏
2026-01-08 22:22:02
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debbiemorris12
Debbie Morris :
Needed to hear this! Thank you 🩷
2026-01-26 18:17:22
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littlee101
🥰 :
34 years together since we were 17 then he cheats and now there engaged after 7 mts
2026-02-12 18:16:45
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vickirudd5
Vicki-Toria 🌈 :
This is sooooo 💯 true.
2026-01-03 19:46:51
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br1ttbr1tt325
Britt :
Everyday reminder….
2025-12-17 04:37:05
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kelbelwatson
kelbel :
male's so much sense to what I'm dealing with
2025-12-16 14:43:49
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user3811275824284
JueDrops :
Why is she posting photos never posted off us she came back after 11 Months for 7 Months, she looks a little like me, it hurts but know my worth and her patterns. Thoughts pls x
2025-12-16 14:50:55
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hercomfortzone205
i7 :
They can do Service level connection right but not true connection
2026-01-11 16:15:01
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helenstok
Helen :
Why can they get engaged though and married
2026-06-14 18:24:51
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crazydogmamax
Tiffany Price :
@JustineGilbert 🍒 🥰
2026-01-06 21:31:22
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asheana_a
asheana :
❤️❤️❤️
2026-01-04 04:16:07
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helenstok
Helen :
❤️
2026-06-14 18:23:53
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inhale123exhale123
Inhale123Exhale123 :
Sometimes they do, my exs gf is minted!
2025-12-16 17:26:06
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