What those gatekeepers don't seem to take into account is the mortifying embarrassment that comes with not knowing our true selves for an entire lifetime. Being sneered at by the community we had hoped would welcome us with understanding makes it much harder.
2025-12-17 22:28:37
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hellokjames :
Blowing up one’s life is no joke, people should not underestimate the bravery that it takes. Blew mine up at 38. It’s terrifying. Totally worth it, but you can really only fully see that on the other side.
2025-12-18 15:02:33
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C. Badger :
It is wild how quickly my own body insecurities went away as soon as I started dating women.
2025-12-17 04:26:36
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Truth Seeker :
I am a 70 year old and just now acknowledging my identity as gay. I’m a bit embarrassed to admit I have no experience. I am fit and emotionally and financially stable. I do not know if this will happen for
2026-01-03 20:10:37
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witchywoo0703 :
Thanks for seeing us 🥺 the pain I feel when women make comments denying my sexuality because I’m late and life and divorcing from a man. I fought with my blood sweat and tears to get here, let me enjoy it.
2025-12-18 13:24:54
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Jane_Bird’76 🌈 :
Thank you. Just came out to my hubby after 30 years married and I’m 49. Grew up Mormon and deconstruction happened three years ago- hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and I’ve had a great marriage with a good partner. Still difficult to blow up my world to move forward.
2025-12-17 15:29:08
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anne :
And blowing up your life is incredibly isolating - most of my friendships were church-based and they were suddenly out of the picture. Still trying to find my community while getting over my own social anxiety.
2025-12-20 19:07:26
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Brooke :
This made me cry because this is the first time in my journey that anyone has recognized how hard this is, and not thinking I am a terrible person because I came out later in life. Thanks for this. 🥹
2025-12-19 16:01:35
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Shar 🌈🩷 :
The difference in when my ex just put zero effort in to me, our life or our kid vs how much my partner does now is life changing. Reciprocity is amazing.
2025-12-16 23:41:10
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meagan :
I came out in my 30s and haven’t been able to make any romantic connections due to biases. I understand the apprehension on their parts, but it feels like applying for an entry level position that wants you to have 3+ years experience 🤣
2025-12-17 17:01:07
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kimiebear 🫰 :
im a bisexual late in life wanting to couple with a woman and its been difficult 💔 I consider myself a lesbian but have been married to men and have attraction sometimes but rarely. im demisexual
2025-12-17 19:24:06
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Nikki🪷 :
You really nailed all of these aspects. They are so true. Thank you!
2025-12-17 15:06:53
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Wnicole4❌ :
Age 50 married to a man since age 21. Divorced in 2021 convinced I would be single forever. Then this amazing woman expressed her interest, Turned my world upside down with her kindness, patience and communication.
2026-01-16 03:18:47
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shesellsseashellsnomore🇨🇦 :
I just wish there were more safe spaces to hang out without the pressure of actually dating. There are more geared to 20-30. I’m late life and a youthful 50s. But partnering also isnt 100% me yet
2025-12-19 17:03:51
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Mishi✨ :
As a late in life lesbian, thank you for seeing us in this. 🥹🥰
2025-12-17 14:13:07
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KoolMegD :
Feeling so seen here! Thank you for singing our praises!
2025-12-17 23:45:15
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Jacki 🏳️🌈 :
Appreciate this. It’s nice to know that there are people out there that can see/understand/empathize on this level.
2025-12-21 15:59:30
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hachi :
i loved this video. it's very intimidating. I have always suspected i was but after a year of really intense self reflection and looking back in my life, I've realized I'm 1000% a lesbian. I'm 34 and a single mom of a toddler, and it's scary looking at the future and not knowing if I'll ever find someone.
2025-12-18 18:09:35
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Elisabeth Kaplan :
Thank you for this! It’s tough feeling judged just for not having “realised earlier”. Speaking from my own experience as a demi, we just never did the same kind of questioning, experimenting and discovering that non-demis did as teenagers and were more vulnerable to comphet as a result
2025-12-31 13:31:32
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unsorry_liz 🏳️🌈 :
I blew up my whole life to come out. I wouldn’t change any of it. I was in a mentally abusive relationship from 18 for 12yrs. Best thing I did leaving and coming out. Life is now amazing & peaceful.
2025-12-18 10:34:53
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LiberalinTx79 :
I really love this. 👏👏 Hits home for this late-in-life wlw. I appreciate the acknowledgment of these qualities & couldn’t agree more
2025-12-18 23:14:08
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🌈GIGI :
As a late in life lesbian thank you a lot of people just dt get it… we are eager beavers frfr. And I wish i would have came out sooner but also like my mom said I just wasn’t ready until now we have so much to give and want to explore every thing
2025-12-18 10:30:09
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finally_home0 :
Yep. The hardest and best decision EVER!
2025-12-17 14:03:11
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ashandthecity :
appreciate you! really gives me hope when you share this and seeing you both together 💕💕💕
2025-12-17 03:40:16
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