@chris_hatfield: POV: They never text you first #anxiousattachment #attachmentstyle #texting #communication #insecure

N L :

phones do more harm than good to our mental health.

Melissa2007 :

No. Don’t do that. You can’t force people to text first. No matter how nice you THINK you’re bringing it up, it’s going to sound accusatory and needy. Either text them or don’t, don’t try and control what they do.

Julie Ann Stenled :

The problem is when they energy shift. We all need to show our communication style from the beginning.

Julia :

The problem is when you tell them multiple times that it bothers you and they change for a few weeks then go back to the old habits. And when you try to speak to them again they start to roll their eyes and get defensive instead of talking to you. That's the problem and that's where the friendship ends.

Brandy :

can't worry about who texts first when we talk all damn day..

JeffMAC :

Then they say we shouldn't be together and then they block me for a few days. then after a week they come back and the cycle continues 😮‍💨

autumn_99🍁 :

But what if you just started talking and have not hung out yet?

expa :

they stand all day on phone and text and when were in the same room they do the samecand never have time for me so yeah they chose not to text, and keep saying that im a special person

Sonia :

care, attention, initiative never comes with demand whether implicit or direct, once you do this you will create a fake cycle, just stop texting them and see who will check on you and that's it

una12121 :

The other person may sometimes start texting first after you’ve had this conversation with them but it likely may only be because they feel obligated to (to tick a box saying that they did what you asked of them) as opposed to them doing it because they genuinely want to connect with you

Gabbi :

What about when I’m always asking to hangout and they don’t ask me

owaineli :

Is it ok to text first if they do sometimes

rus :

i try to not text first then later that day we never talk anymore😅😅 it still hurt though

RedDragon :

but thats the point if I dont reach out nobody does

💕angel dust 💕 :

you pop up when I was overthinking about my gf

DXB🏁 :

quantsam :

accurate

Een Certified Toffe Peer. :

The most emotional intelligent person I know:

Tatsu👾 :

i rarely text first even when i do so i feel like a straight up clown looking for attention

OgIdiat1🇺🇸 :

Thanks man! I appreciate it

Charlie :

My "friend" said she rarely initiates contact, I was sat in a pub with another friend when my "friend" phoned her. After that I have distanced myself.

Thassy91 :

If they want you they write thats it

SiMp :

wow is this seriously just my exact situation..

noodles808 :

im in that situation and i am exactly like that, buy im learning to say to myself its ok, im recognizing its my attatchment issue and i tell myself its ok, shes busy and will message when ready, and later on they did