@nicknamed.bree: 😕 Part 2 of What Avoidants Say vs. What They Actually (might) Mean. Soooo many people have had a conversation like this at some point. It can feel exhausting to know the avoidant person is just appeasing you and isn’t actually telling you their real train of thought. Especially given that many of the things coming up for them are often deactivating thoughts that you’ll never get a chance to set straight. While this kind of conversation is more common with dismissive avoidants, this absolutely can be applied to fearful avoidants who lean dismissive as well. #avoidantattachmentstyle
As an avoidant this is true but it hurts deep down. I’m ashamed to be this way.
2026-02-17 01:11:09
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Yoncè :
I’m the avoidant. I’ve used these lines. Word for word. Bar for bar😩😩🙏🏾
2025-12-26 17:32:24
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IS :
"too much going on in my life, I need to be by myself" 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
2025-12-20 23:23:49
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Marked By Light :
An avoidant doesn't say all that. They just disappear one day
2025-12-20 16:10:31
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pops :
but they can become more interested if you show emotional calmness, intentionality, consistent presence with regulation and no sign that you will depend on them to help you regulate
2026-01-16 06:06:10
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morocla :
And then there’s the real reason… why commit to one person when you have a roster that you are entertaining behind the scenes.
2025-12-23 06:54:26
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Khudi :
Anyone else feel weird when avoidants keep using “fun” to describe a relationship; it kind of makes it feel like relationships are supposed to be games or some other form of entertainment.
2025-12-22 23:42:05
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ArtMama :
But he pursued me!
2025-12-21 10:38:44
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Maggie :
They say all that then get into a relationship the next day 😂
2025-12-30 14:30:41
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ohhayanaaa :
Sounds like someone who’s going to be single for the rest of their lives. That’s sucks
2026-01-07 13:11:30
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Michelle 🖤 :
The “forever” being overwhelming yet they were the ones to bring up “forever” first and realizing true actual love has a cost and that when they run and avoid they can do that all they want but theyre getting in the way of their own happiness long term. The cycle will rinse & repeat. Until they heal. Swallow and face the pride. Realize it feels different because all they knew was survival or toxic cycles and healthy feels scary because its different.
2025-12-25 16:04:58
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charlie.bates333🩷🎀 :
This is bullshit because we got here by your love bombing and manipulation, and hot and cold games….”you’re over the top”, lol, you brought up these conversations. 😂😏 Do avoidants rewrite history?
2026-01-16 11:21:59
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Wendy :
Word for word
2025-12-22 14:27:11
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almostahappystory :
Avoidants will do everything except do therapy and work on themselves
2026-01-18 21:57:28
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Alexandria :
this was said almost verbatim. do they have a conference they go to??
2026-01-15 18:02:29
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Alondrau18 :
question, what would make an avoidant want to stay?
2026-01-21 20:15:33
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user6831652311844 :
exactlyyy what she said lol
2026-01-30 03:50:54
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Courtney :
“Blah blah blah blah” is all I hear instead of “You’re right, I should go to therapy”.
2025-12-23 18:11:41
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Candy_B :
If they meant it there wouldn’t be a “but”
2026-02-10 19:59:13
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Sam :
And then they replace you
2025-12-22 20:20:58
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danieljmiraski :
seriously, the convo sounds so familiar, and then the "i just wanna be friends" after...
2026-01-03 00:38:02
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Raed_VE2 :
“I feel like I’m lying to myself” but still talks to me 24/7 till she finds a new energy source to use
2026-01-04 19:48:12
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emily🦇 :
after 6.5 years being together 🤪
2025-12-21 07:35:31
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ؘ :
word for word, bar for bar
2025-12-27 02:04:33
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Nikki :
Woah this is spot on I feel like you just read the last text message I received when he randomly discarded me when we were wonderful.
2025-12-21 10:22:10
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