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elenat.artwork :
Only this year did I learn I am actively fawning most of the time. When I met up with a new potential friend and she turned out to be maga, I didn’t want her to feel rejected. So she walked away thinking I was cool with her beliefs, when that is definitely not the case.
2025-12-26 00:15:51
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dakotasynthesis🐈⬛🫀 :
I live in that fog entirely for the duration of a relationship
2025-12-26 03:48:57
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Sidney Parrish :
YES ALL OF THIS you lose your entire sense of self. It is so hard trying to unlearn
2026-01-01 15:25:24
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Lou Siffer :
boundaries used to feel like violence
2025-12-29 07:50:42
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thatonegirl :
this was 100% me and I finally overcame it thank God. I had this with friendships too.
2025-12-25 23:37:35
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borigo :
This is a little bit less complicated than you make it out to be: fawning is a stress response. You were (like me) taught that others people’s anger is dangerous. For you, fawning was the best survival strategy in these situations. Hence, when you might upset someone, you get stressed, and you fawn.
2026-02-01 23:01:04
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Oceana :
As usual, we are practically the same person
2025-12-28 19:16:41
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PJ :
Literally me. Right now. Actively navigating attempts at a break up
2025-12-26 17:11:54
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bobbijosavage132 :
I think that’s a key you are being manipulated, it is my literal pattern
2026-01-10 21:26:40
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carlie 🍓 :
thankfully he broke up with me. it was terrible to cope with but it was the best thing to ever happen to me. i wouldn’t have left if he hadn’t. i literally went through all the phases of grief.
2026-01-25 03:25:03
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zhade :
I think being bullied as a child did this to me; there wasn't any good reason for my peers to act that way towards me and so I learned to appease them in order to avoid attention? Idk my whole childhood feels very murky tbh...
2025-12-26 07:39:01
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Precious Things ✨️ :
normalizing healing out loud is one of my favorite genres. You exploring with curiosity shows so much emotional intelligence.
2025-12-25 23:22:24
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Erin :
This is exceptionally true when you’re dealing with a narcissistic relationship. I just got out of this dynamic and it is such a vicious cycle of self-doubt, disappointment, confusion, and clarity.
2026-01-22 16:01:41
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Liz McComb :
Thank you SO much for speaking on your experiences. I have been working through all of this for the last several years and you’ve put language to, and helped me conceptualize, so much.
2025-12-26 14:20:37
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Thatjillian :
So grateful for all the healing it took for you to make these videos. Also fascinated by how it seems there’s always way more saves than comments on your videos. These topics are so often hidden in the shadows
2025-12-26 08:40:32
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thestarsbegantoburn :
This resonates SO much. I’m terrified to get in a relationship because of this exact dynamic
2025-12-27 04:22:50
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SwissArmyLez :
Girl I'm 35 and still struggle with this
2025-12-30 14:15:46
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Holo.Siren :
yall need to watch nana.
2026-01-02 07:48:22
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Travel2Live :
This is so helpful to hear you explain how this is a body response not a cognitive one.
2025-12-26 18:59:18
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lorah aveline :
I’m currently going through this same pattern. It is so exhausting and confusing 😭
2025-12-26 01:04:07
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midwestmahhhhnster :
I really appreciate you sharing so vulnerably. the environment of your household sounds similar to mine growing up, and you're helping me put words to how that shaped me. thanks and merry Christmas!
2025-12-26 06:09:48
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amyaventurera :
This is exactly what happens in my romantic relationships. Please keep talking about this
2025-12-26 14:58:10
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Sahar 🦋 :
wow you just described what I’ve felt but didn’t know how to describe so succinctly.
2026-01-24 08:09:02
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creativemagiqueredux :
Same. Yes.
2025-12-25 23:48:11
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Elowyn 🇵🇸 :
You’re so good at putting into words very similar experiences I’ve navigated and I couldn’t be more grateful
2025-12-30 04:57:55
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