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Gabi :
I was trying to fill a loneliness void. I ended up making a bestie and my spending went sooo down.
2025-12-27 17:38:53
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Abby_C4♒ :
I was raised by a poor single mother. My grandma treated me like her daughter 2.0. I was always being told how I will be and do better than my mom when I grew up. There was always pressure on me to be the best, smartest, most docile, and kindest person in our family. Not to mention my rich cousins flaunting their new stuff to me all the time while being told I need to be thankful for what I have. I was told I was expensive, loud, ungrateful, clumsy, messy, picky, weird, etc. (#undiagnosedADHD). The only time I felt like a worthy person was when my grandma took me back to school shopping once a year or when my mom got her tax refund and we got to get Starbucks and 1 thing from Bath and Body Works. I shop when I feel worthless. I know this about myself. I think, oh once I buy this, then I will be enough. But there's always something more to buy. The first no buy year was a struggle and ultimately a failure. After I learned I buy things to fix me, it was a success. Because now I tell myself, I am enough as I am with the things I have. It's ok to aspire to be more, but not the way I was doing it. I am a grown, flawed woman with her own money and worth. That's my story and I hope it helps someone who faced a similar past.
2026-01-26 16:04:40
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Stephstuff :
I am a shopping online while watching TV addict. I started watching films in another language so I have to focus on the TV to read the translations instead of scrolling
2026-01-01 17:02:27
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llea_rn :
Read the Substack article ‘You’re overspending because you lack values’ in it they say ‘Desire is never about the object itself […] Desire is about what the object seems to promise us: a fuller, richer existence.’
2025-12-30 11:48:50
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Tori :
Your page has been the most realistic and insightful when it comes to no buys, thank you for sharing your journey. One thing im going to try this year is every time I want to buy something, im going to pay the cost of that item + any shipping fees and tax off my debt instead of buying said item and contributing to my debt.
2025-12-27 15:20:22
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✨✨✨ :
I want to DO more. I don’t really mind spending money if I am experiencing something. But if I’m just buying an object and hoping that object will provide me some happiness, then I hope to pass that up a lot more this year.
2026-01-03 14:16:16
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noaadine :
Everytime I want to shop I just remind myself I just want to look better and exercise and do wellness instead
2025-12-29 15:12:20
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Amy E :
I want to replace my shopping addiction with more sustainable dopamine sources such as creating art and really diving into exploring my personal style within the confines of the clothes & accessories I already own, as well as learning to sew better so I can mend and alter my own clothes.
2026-01-07 14:47:55
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Abby :
I don’t plan on doing a no buy but I plan on doing 100 days of no spending this year. I was to the point I was shopping every day even if it was for little things. 100 is some good starting progress I think
2026-01-05 17:26:30
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Dina EFT tapping & Attachment :
this is such an important video! the deep rooted issues must be addressed and only addressing the coping mechanism will lead to ... not the progress you want
2025-12-28 06:56:56
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mynawallin :
It’s hard to NOT do something 💘 shopping is an endorphin rush, hard to skip that. Yes, an addiction!
2025-12-28 20:55:35
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Erica Reid 🇨🇦 :
I’m with you. I think it is like healthy eating. You will have to shop at some point. Work on shopping when you need it for things you actually need and do not have anything else at home you could use instead. It’s about creating healthy habits while also being able to shop and being aware of the negative impacts of shopping on you and the earth and also realizing it is vital (especially when you have kids) but I thrift as much as I possibly can and always donate their stuff they outgrow.
2025-12-28 20:50:21
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DivineUrsula :
I needed novelty and joy. Practicing a language and cooking, playing board games, and spending on experiences made SO MUCH MORE SENSE than spending on material things
2026-01-12 20:34:51
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sincerewabisabi :
I specifically filled the rest of my 2026 goals with things to do instead of shopping. New recipes, watching movies, FaceTimes with my sister 💕
2025-12-30 17:03:30
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ur mother :
This is super practical advice 🫡🫡
2025-12-29 21:26:27
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dimmy :
most people need a why, find out your WHY!
2026-01-01 09:19:44
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j money :
Such a good take
2025-12-28 16:56:14
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Celle & Will Chamberlin :
What a brilliant perspective.
2025-12-29 10:57:48
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Eliza | Pretty Little Luxuries :
I'm just jumping off the cheap dopamine hit and overconsumption trains so that I can do more meaningful things: mostly studying Buddhism and travel. And yes, I am shifting my funds to go towards my values. Ultimately, my value is FREEDOM. I want $ so that I have more options and fewer restrictions in life when it comes to big decisions (not shopping).
2026-01-08 11:12:50
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maxi’s archive 📓🕯️ :
but.. can you do a no buy if you still NEED to buy 2 items 👀?
2025-12-29 00:58:20
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skybluetopaz :
I had a childhood where I didn’t have things, and I always felt shame about that. So I’ve spent my adult life being obsessed by buying things, especially clothes because having the “right” clothes stops people knowing that you’re poor at first glance. I now have shame around overspending… it’s fun to be me.
2026-01-05 11:11:45
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Shayna Jaskolka :
I decided to do a “no buy until you’ve used up what you already have”. I love shopping but I don’t need 10 tubes of mascara 🫠 so when I run out/it dries up, I get a new one!
2026-01-02 21:25:01
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Janel :
I’d absolutely love to watch your 2026 journey. I’m on a similar no-/low-buy path and really appreciate your honesty, it’s refreshing and motivating.
2025-12-28 12:45:24
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lol :
yess and for my project pan people: when products are finished, make sure to scrape them out/cut them open/take out the stopper (when applicable to get all the product), rinse em out, and drop off at ulta/sephora/pact for proper recycling of the packaging!!
2026-01-06 01:18:52
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