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B4sic :

if anyone is an avoidant in this comments section could you please lmk how it works? I would like to be more forgiving and open minded towards others experiences so I can be better.

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at one point it felt like :

サ :

people nowadays simply just give an excuse “i have an avoidant attachment style” like it justifies and explains everything. so sick of it. how about calling it uninterested, lack of efforts, laziness and trust issues instead of just this whole “idk why i did it” because at some point you just have to be accountable for your actions

💪🏻🪐 :

and then you realize it was all you they just mirrored you .

𝐀𝐁𝐒 𝐆𝐎𝐓 𝐁𝐎𝐎𝐊𝐄𝐃 📖 :

They mirror you in the beginning to get you hooked. That love you miss is actually YOU. I’m not saying they’re not capable of love because they are in their own avoidant way but until they heal/if they ever heal, you will never be loved healthily by that person. It’s been a constant loop for 8 months of me constantly being in battle with this person fighting for them to love me and I finally gave up Christmas Eve. Just cut your losses if you can find the strength to leave. Once you’re brave enough to leave it hurts like hell but it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. My avoidant broke me more in 8 months compared to my previous 8 year relationship.

Yshaa :

Then you start doubting if any of it was real…

Celina ♡ :

except im choosing to leave because I will not allow myself to be with someone who no longer appreciates my worth

Chaerat :

i know that someone is avoidant, and i already expect something of what would happen in loving one. i still love that person even if it's like that. because being an avoidant is not who they really are. i don't think they wanted to be like that too. so, i always try to understand even if it hurts. i kept waiting and hoping that they will be okay, we will be okay. but uhm that didn't happen. now, i just want that person to be okay even if they're not with me anymore. (sry imyapping, over sa share)

Gianna 🪽 :

All happened in the space of THREE MONTHS man 💔

Kuya Bobby :

@LstrVldz :

on the other hand, their in capability to reciprocate feelings you’re also craving is enough reason to leave and let it all pass. Because at the end of the day, we must choose the one whom we can share and experience life at best possible way—a person who’s willing to deal together with all the struggles and difficulties in life :))

Honour :

Cut the cameras man. 7 months later and the pain is still painfully deep. I just want to say to whoever is also going through the same thing IT WILL GET BETTER. It's hard to see past the pain (but one day it will go away and the person who is meant for you will make you feel alive again and it will be soooo AMAZING). And I'm saying this while I'm going through the trenches.

. :

Going thru this with him and he prefers to leave rather than change or make an effort for me, that hurts.. I miss the old him

whitespirit :

living it it hurts

w.i._l_l :

It's like reading someone's thoughts about me 😀 🧍🏻‍♂️

Melinggot123 :

she came unexpectedly, made me fall in love with her. and now, she's slowly drifting as if my love will do the same 🥺

rain :

what hurts most is i thought i was going to be the exception

💜🎬 :

This is a different kind of betrayal. How can you suddenly mean so little to someone you once meant so much to?

Leii 귀여워 :

and suddenly, I am begging for what has been because I saw what they can do BEFORE that shift.

zee :

I hear this, and I want to offer another perspective - from someone who's avoidant. It’s not that the “void gets filled” and we move on after getting what we want. In many cases, the distancing comes from fear. Unresolved childhood wounds, survival patterns, and a deep fear of vulnerability can make closeness feel unsafe, even when the connection is real. Avoidant people aren’t a monolith - some aren’t ready to change, but many of us are actively trying, learning, and unlearning. Growth isn’t linear. I truly believe grace matters here, because most people are doing the best they can with what they’ve been taught and what they’re still healing from

mesinuh :

Muz ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁 .ᐟ :

I feel attacked but it was a friendship. I was doing all the work, making them feel seen, heard, and cared for. I was the kindest friend they had, the "ONE CALL AWAY" friend. I was everything, until I finally woke. They can't RECIPROCATE. They keep on taking and taking and taking. In some ways they shower me with breadcrumbs with Late Invites and Care that has other intentions. And I was once caring, but I can finally see. I am keeping my distance to keep my peace.

linn :

i worked through my problems for them and they didn’t even tell me theirs

Lily ﾒ𝟶 :

oh yeah.. that.

Alex 🌻 :

I wish this was on his fyp. He genuinely sat there and decided hurting me was his best option :/