@jennifer.lauren.rose: Codependency was a brilliant survival strategy, but it comes at a high cost. At its core, codependency is when you organize your safety, worth, wellbeing, or identity around other people’s emotions and perceptions of you. If you: • feel responsible for how others feel • struggle to say no without guilt • lose yourself in relationships • feel calmer when others are okay than when you are •are only “okay” if they are okay Then you’re in a learned survival pattern. Healing codependency isn’t about becoming detached or selfish or self-centered (a common fear or push back I hear). It’s about staying connected to others without abandoning yourself. #HealingJourney #codependency #attachmenthealing #somatichealing #traumahealing

Colleen G :

I have all of this. And now hearing all of this is incredibly depressing. I’ve been living my entire life like this. And I’m trying to get out of it and I don’t know if I’m doing it very well.

Rachel :

The timing of me seeing this is impeccable

PUMA :

How do you explain that I was raised in a healthy loving home and I still relate to this? I’m confused

user92574562894 :

I really struggle with this concept - i understand it, but feel like the only (completely unrealistic) solution is to start over. My whole life is built on the assumption of dependence on my stability and care of others. Self abandonment is the default.

Jade Golden :

@Jade Golden: Would love some tips on how to start the healing process. Totally resonate with the long description of how to recognize myself as codependent – and- what’s next?

Nstar :

Ummm, I never learned about boundaries. Where do I start?

Rookhoundlover :

It’s amazing how every video you put everything into words so perfectly and describe things so well. It’s such a wonderful skill and I’m grateful that you are putting your energy into sharing it with others and helping people learn about their trauma and also how to heal from it. You are so greatly appreciated

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Kathy R :

I love how you phrase it as “coming home to yourself”. This was immensely helpful, thank you!

Nlolita :

I just set a huge boundary to not abandoned myself and my inner teen was so happy.

Lian :

Are you spying on me? 😂

Tiptop :

You look like Elizabeth Olsen.

user8389552978951 :

I thought you were a blonde Maggie Gyllenhaal 🥰

Anna :

Do you have any book recommendations on this topic, that may be helpful for couples to read together? Thank you 🙏

mommodehome :

One of the best things I’ve watched in awhile

justbuiltdifferent_ :

Good gracious 💯🎯

Whynotsmile0 :

Thank you. I have all the signs of co-dependency. I don’t want to be codependent anymore!

tabsstakes :

Do you have a how to guide?? 🤭🤔🙁

Uncle Benelli :

Me

🌙🌻Christina🌺🦋 :

What are the two you can use to change that?

🌙🌻Christina🌺🦋 :

What are the things you can do to change that?

mollie_mc :

This is explained so clearly! Thank you

Marbles90 :

Any tips on how I start returning to self??

Melissa Romero :

Thank you

JoyVine :

Ok I’ve always had this but I could walk away from relationships. After my partner passed away 3 years ago it’s been on overdrive and I want it to stop.