@magneticmj: You are not lacking confidence. You are lacking social momentum. You think the reason you are stuck socially is because you are not confident enough.
You tell yourself that if confidence was there, talking to people would be easy.
So you wait until you feel ready. And when you don’t take action, something else shows up.
That heavy feeling.
That frustration.
That pent-up energy sitting in your body. Not because you don’t care.
But because that energy has to go somewhere. So you channel it into numbing.
The scrolling.
The weed.
The porn.
The drinking. At first, it just takes the edge off.
But over time, the story shifts. You start telling yourself the numbing is the reason you’re stuck.
And now it feels harder than ever to break the cycle.
Harder to put yourself out there.
Harder to talk to people.
Harder to rebuild momentum.
Harder to believe confidence is even possible. But that’s where the misunderstanding is. Confidence doesn’t arrive once everything is fixed.
It doesn’t show up after you finally feel ready.
It shows up while you’re still uncomfortable.
While you’re still carrying energy.
While mistakes are still happening. Not because mistakes feel good.
But because you stop turning them into verdicts on yourself. Confidence is not the starting point.
Momentum is. When momentum starts again, confidence follows.
Your self-talk softens.
Your body relaxes.
Social situations stop feeling like tests you’re about to fail. Nothing is broken.
You didn’t fall behind.
You went quiet for a while. And quiet things can restart. #loneliness #socialskills #socialconfidence #socialanxiety #howtomakefriends

MJ

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Tuesday 30 December 2025 02:52:38 GMT