I know a youth pastor who married the girl he used to babysit when she turned 18
2025-12-31 15:15:43
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Jeff Howell :
“God told me” is what taking the Lords name in vain actually means
2026-01-01 17:56:00
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lore&sagas :
All churches should be 21 and over to keep children safe
2025-12-30 20:49:30
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tony :
I was dating my youth pastor before I was 18 while still going to youth group. it did not stay a secret for long and the other pastors had a full sit down conversation with him about how he needed to keep pursuing me. we got married and then years later he admitted to never believing in god at all. it shattered my world bc I was GROOMED to be a CHRISTIAN WIFE so I finally educated myself, deconstructed and realized what abuse looks like and RAN ✌🏻
2026-01-15 19:38:24
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jzimom :
My brother was the youth paster and gave his now-wife a kiss as her 18th birthday present. 😭😭 (no i don’t talk to them outside holiday gatherings)
2026-01-08 17:30:47
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Ember (SAHM-Homeschool) 🇵🇸🌈 :
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2026-02-17 18:13:48
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j.maldonado.216 :
So… when I was a wee lad, the baptist pastor at our local church one day told the story how he met this beautiful 16 yr old who was his student, but “God told him to wait”. She later became his wife when she turned 20, “so no one will comment”. But, I was the one in the wrong when I said something about that did not smell right 😂
2025-12-31 13:42:57
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user69696942069 :
Pastor only waited until 18 because of the law
2026-01-01 19:24:05
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Abigail Veach :
I'm 20, I cannot imagine dating someone three years younger than me. I cannot imagine dating someone like my 17 year old self I have changed so much since then. Unfortunately people don't care and are okay with WAY more than three years.
2025-12-31 09:12:35
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Frank2131 :
This should not be controversial.
2025-12-30 21:19:22
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Hannah T. :
my dad was my moms youth pastor. 11 year age difference and it ended up being an awful, abusive marriage. the church sided with my dad (his dad was a pastor) it was all very ugly
2026-01-09 01:20:40
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Colton | Pastor. Photographer. :
Speaking as a youth pastor, you are 100% correct. I was married with my own child already when I became a YP and I love my youth kids like they’re my own children. But they are just that, children. I’d fight anyone my age that wanted to date my youth kids.
2026-01-09 21:36:16
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Rachel :
Our youth pastor dated then married his student once she got to college. She died and he MARRIED HER BEST FRIEND WITH THE SAME NAME LESS THAN A YEAR LATER
2026-01-09 04:50:26
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JamesRivertotheSea• Friend :
fully grown adults shouldn't date people under 25. their brain isn't fully developed, there's an unavoidable power unbalance
2025-12-31 16:45:58
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Comicsans4life :
I have a friend who married her youth pastor, I think at 18 and he was 32. Power balance is huge. And even just with age, the power balance is different. You don’t gain the right kind of confidence at 18.
2026-01-15 13:10:45
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Mireydis :
Churches are not a safe places tbh
2025-12-31 21:35:08
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Rebekah :
our youth pastor is the lead pastor's BIL, they're both grandpas. he will not let very young men (18-25ish) lead any youth unsupervised, and watches the teens closely to be sure there is no grooming behavior. I adore that man 🥰
2026-01-03 21:58:30
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Iesha wright :
Story time. My uncle was married with two children and he was a pastor of our church. His wife was a successful career women but my uncles pushed her to be a stay at home mom. Anyway my uncle also ran the youth group with my step dad. And there was this at the time 16 year old girl in our group. She was blond thin and very pretty…. They spend a lot of time together and once I caught them talking in his office. Anyway, my uncle divorce my aunt and spread AWFUL rumored about her that made her look abusive and crazy. And my uncle stayed at this 16 year old family home since he was close with her mom… once she turned 18 they were dating… then when she turned 19 they got married… fast forward to today this girl is now in her late 30s she always has a bad hair cut, and never drove. He is very controling of her and she seem so miserable… my aunt entire reputation is still not repaired :(
2025-12-30 21:20:21
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C.C. L. :
My church required our youth leader hires to be married. Not that that would prevent every inappropriate relationship, but it prevents that specific situation by taking it off the table.
2026-01-05 01:08:28
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Matt Blaylock :
It's always "Abuse doesn't happen in the church" until it's proven that there's abuse in the church; then it's "not that widespread" until it's proven to be that widespread, then it's "God's will"
2026-01-01 18:11:28
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Mel Zalman :
Read this and wondered why we even need to say that….
2025-12-31 03:45:44
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Me, Myself, and I :
I had a fellow student in college that had this happen to her. She constantly said they "Knew it was God's plan for them, but they had to wait until the proper time." Which happened to be her 18th birthday.... She was 13-14 when they met. He was 24. She wouldn't hear a word against him. I worry about her still.... This was in 2004...
2025-12-31 15:41:32
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Mary Beth l Author 📚✨ :
HEAVY in all of this
2025-12-31 10:02:05
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