@jennifer.lauren.rose: This is my most controversial opinion as a former therapist and current somatic practitioner: If you’re on the fence about having a child, do not do it out of obligation, pressure, or fear of regret. I have never sat across from a woman who chose a child-free life and regretted it. I have sat across from many mothers who love their children deeply and still say motherhood was far harder than they were prepared for. In the U.S., we have: • minimal postpartum care • little parental leave • fragmented healthcare • loss of community and village support • unrealistic expectations placed on women Motherhood asks everything of your nervous system, identity, body, and life. If you choose it, choose your co-parent wisely and make sure it’s a full-body yes, not a social default. There is nothing wrong with choosing a child-free life. There is nothing wrong with choosing motherhood. But make sure you know what you’re choosing, and what it will ask of you. #childfree #childfreebychoice #motherhood #womenshealth #womensmentalhealth

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pecansmahm :

33 and childfree.. I know I’d be a good mother, I also know I wouldn’t be a happy one

2026-01-04 06:23:22

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📚Charise M Studesville :

Choosing the right partner is so much bigger than we talk about.

2026-01-02 06:57:37

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Pawswatts :

Child free. 58. No regrets. Unless you are ACHING to be a mother, don’t do it.

2026-01-02 05:27:02

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jennabloomm :

If it’s a maybe ITS A NO

2026-01-03 19:54:58

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Brynnlee :

25 and will never have children. Everyone says, “you’ll change your mind.” I will not.

2026-01-02 12:18:46

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C. :

Motherhood seems genuinely miserable & daunting. I can’t believe ppl actually do it willingly

2026-01-03 10:01:48

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Tinuman🇨🇭 :

100%. I have 2 kids that I love so much but it ruined my life and health

2026-01-02 07:57:58

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Aussie Lover❤️🐾 :

My husband made us go to therapy to convince me to have one- I’m so glad I didn’t, despite the SHAMING by the female therapist

2026-01-03 01:42:32

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Hilarie :

I think "wanting" it isn't enough. You can want all day, but if you dont have the resources needed, including inner resources, its not fair to the kid. Which I think is what youre saying anyway.

2026-01-03 00:23:00

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I barely make food for myself 😭

2026-01-03 05:19:29

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user2939737884190 :

I am a very happy mother from Ireland. I would NEVER be a mother if I lived in America.

2026-01-02 16:53:18

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Eddie V :

Children seem like a total nightmare. Can't believe people subject themselves to it

2026-01-02 23:21:23

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Meggo :

49, child free. Absolutely NO regrets.👍

2026-01-02 13:22:36

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catya_catherine :

Childfree by choice, for life

2026-03-10 05:03:01

Littlegertslayer :

41 and childfree! Never. Been. Happier. After we made the decision to not have kids, I grieved for about an hour and then I felt like a huge weight had been lifted!! I admire women that want and thrive in motherhood but it just was never meant for me ♥️

2026-01-04 02:18:28

erbear :

Spot on. And it’s a shame, bc I do think far more of us women would love to be mothers if we lived in a more accommodating society, and if more men were brought up to understand the sacrifice required to be be a good husband and father.

2026-01-02 04:29:46

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fullcirclegarden :

Wholeheartedly agree! As a 50ish child-free woman, I'm so profoundly grateful I stuck with my gut and critical thinking that told me that motherhood was NOT for me.

2026-01-02 05:51:23

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Debs :

Child-free (and husband-free) at 52. Breaking generational curses here. I fully agree with everything you said.

2026-01-02 11:36:28

SamOnSocial :

39 and childfree. Children are people and they deserve a family that is enthusiastic about them joining. Not people bringing them in out of obligation or apathy.

2026-03-05 02:51:12

Elizabeth :

💯!!!! As a childcare center owner, some people are just not meant to be parents and that’s ok! Just honor that, because it’s extremely unfair to the child.

2026-01-02 06:48:55

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Ciara Elaine :

Reading the comments as someone without kids it’s so confusing to hear people talk about parenthood. “I hate it and it’s ruining my life” but I wouldn’t change anything. Huh?

2026-01-03 07:15:36

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Kelsie.and.rewilding :

I say this all the time!!! I was on the fence and I regret having my son. I adore him and I am a great mother but I don't enjoy motherhood it self

2026-01-02 13:37:16

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jennybee🐞 :

My aunt gave me the same advice years ago - if you’re not absolutely sure you want to have kids, don’t do it. And she was right.

2026-01-02 07:54:32

Autumn M :

43, no children, eldest daughter, zero regret. In a very happy and loving marriage, we knew it wasn’t for us. If you do not 💯 want to be a mother, don’t do it.

2026-01-02 07:03:17

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Priscilla_Reads📚 :

I’m all in. I wanted this on a cellular level. I adore my kiddo. I have a supportive partner who is involved. I am exhausted and aging rapidly.

2026-01-02 07:07:44

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