@girlthepoet: #TikTokCreatorSearchInsightsIncentive Avoidant attachment style people don’t fully regret losing you until you actually let them lose you. Not “pulling back a little.” Not staying emotionally available. Not waiting in theory. They can’t regret losing someone who’s still orbiting their life. The moment you stop self-abandoning the moment you remove access the moment you choose yourself instead of chasing clarity is the moment the loss becomes real to them. Avoidants don’t process loss in real time. They feel it when the nervous system realizes the door is actually closed. And here’s the part most people miss: This isn’t about making them regret it. It’s about ending the cycle where you disappear to keep the connection alive. If you’re healing from an avoidant attachment breakup, remember this: Detachment isn’t punishment. It’s self-respect. #avoidantattachmentstyle #avoidantbehavior #avoidantattachment #MentalHealthAwareness
When you’re drowning in your own mind, words rarely reach you. But the words in Deep Inside a Ruined Mind by Dex Tarren broke through and stayed with me.
2026-01-07 11:39:25
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MIRKA :
Just block them. Period
2026-01-06 00:43:03
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Agustin35 :
I don’t want her anymore tho, this cycle has me feeling exhausted and unloved in the long run
2026-01-05 00:59:07
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𝒜𝓃𝓃𝒾⋆˚✿˖° :
Do avoidants ever change?
2026-01-05 18:44:42
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🌷𝓚𝔂𝓵𝓲𝓮🌷 :
I moved on once and his emotions smacked him right on the face. He had to deal with them they were too strong. He got therapy and was amazing. Now we are married and his avoidance is worse then ever!!
2026-01-05 15:28:30
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meow :
i blocked him, i didn’t want that to happen but i had to choose myself, and i’m not going back
2026-01-05 00:26:59
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Sar (: :
Well I unfollowed on every platform yet he just watches all my stories and has a girlfriend and I didn’t respond to his last message and he’s with his new girlfriend for 6 months now
2026-01-04 23:25:36
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✨Grace💋🪶 :
So basically just don’t deal with an avoidant. Got it!👏👏
2026-01-06 02:03:52
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Fordgirlxox :
I've blocked him so he can't see
2026-01-05 02:41:20
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Kathy Hand :
I don't want him any more he has broke my heart destroyed me in the last 10 yrs am so tired he's cold
2026-01-05 10:39:34
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𐌅Ꝋ𐌂𐌵𐌔 龙 :
Even if you did that they’d put the blame on you for blocking they won’t care they never do
2026-01-05 17:40:21
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Lisa Rogers :
I stopped posting and hid my active status. I don't message or call. He told me he feared losing me because I was all he had. He'll feel it now.
2026-01-05 00:21:23
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Greg :
The whole point of going no contact is not to be bothered if they regret the loss. Move on and don’t look back at all. And if they reach out, just ignore them totally. No response is the best response to an avoidant.
2026-01-06 23:04:08
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❌Traci❌ :
He ghosted me and left silence so I matched his energy and went silent too
2026-01-05 21:20:23
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rarelybehavedwoman :
And when he lost me, there’s no coming back from that for him.
2026-01-05 00:27:35
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✨Shelley✨ :
No I am NOT available to him ma’am.
2026-01-05 07:30:37
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Devilsangelgayl :
You are correct 💯
2026-01-04 23:23:41
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craigscruton :
Then what? Walk away and they will regret and then they come back? Why take them back? It’s all about control for them not that they truly want you. It’s a painful never ending cycle. It’s a game I’m so tired of playing. I’m done with this push and pull BS game.
2026-01-05 05:49:23
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tony macarroni :
you are correct
2026-01-07 21:00:32
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Forthewinn :
Perfect
2026-01-07 20:25:20
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Disrespected Trucker :
Kinda hard to "disappear" if your work with them. I was just a "friend" and I'm just Emotionally tired...Now i just don't replied to text messages...If he needs me, he can just come find me
2026-01-06 22:52:58
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Gina :
Avoid avoidants
2026-01-07 17:32:18
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RoseColorGlasses :
God’s talking to me through you 😂
2026-01-06 05:52:00
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tony macarroni :
you have to give them the shock treatment. you are 100% but it takes a anxious person allot of courage to turn there back on someone because they used to working things out.but some times you have to walk away. takes guts but it has to happen
2026-01-07 21:05:10
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