@moodswithlarisa: Providing basics doesn’t equal providing love. You can meet needs and still miss the child. Parenting isn’t about what you supplied, it’s about how safe, heard, and valued your kid felt. Showing up emotionally matters more than checking boxes. Connection is the work, everything else is just maintenance. #foryoupage #MentalHealth #fyp #dysfunctionalfamily #nocontact

xxjujuxo :

i’ve just always been “ungrateful” 😁

Hailee :

I was so miserable, ignored, and alone. I was always wishing I had different parents.

Faith & Inspiration :

No wonder most people don’t want kids anymore, bare minimum almost cost some of their parent’s dreams and aspirations and still not enough! Sad world 🌎

_ohjanel :

These posts are what's wrong with gen z providing is not easy and it's not the bare minimum it's everything

pamelaknuckles :

I hope you all never have to read comments like this from your children. Parenting is difficult.

Erika Martin :

Thinking your child will always be around, nope they can choose to love you from afar!

Cosmo1 :

My mother was always very nice in front of others. When no one was watching the true her always veered its ugly head. I’ve been no contact 13 yrs since I was 45. I’m grateful to her for showing me the mother I never wanted to be.

thedavids14 :

It’s also taking kids to the park spending real time with them not letting them be on the phone games tablet all day

Nicole :

Wild because my mom didn’t provide those regularly but still thinks she’s a good mom.

janet :

Omg. The judgement. Empathy goes a long way. My husband went to war x 3 while I was raising four kids. The bare minimum was enough

Jayana🌺✨ :

Exactlyyy, people need to start CHOOSING to become parents, and when you do you have to be there for your kids emotionally as well as physically. The physical part means nothing if you can’t be emotionally there for your kids as well.

Bryskii :

Dam, I’ve spent years feeling guilty because my mother has provided for me but has lacked to understand me and my emotions.

leahbooo.👻 :

catchingfire8 :

My dad always says “its because of the way i raised her that she turned out to be such a good person” (Its not its because i dont want others to hurt like i did)

Kanen 𓃥 :

It wasn’t about what they did as much as it was abt what they DIDNT do

𝐼𝓉𝓈.𝒮𝒶𝓈𝓈𝓎𝒷𝒶𝒷𝓎𝓎এ :

performance, manipulate, narcissism, control all learned and downloaded first from our mother's DNA remember that. We act exactly and perform exaclty like our mothers in adulthood if you aren't aware or haven't broke cycle your mother did not you repeat the lesson over and over again🥰

Cam🐶 :

I had always been told I was sensitive, to much or just plain not good enough by them. What did they do blamed me.

thatg@y :

my mom would always tell me she'd give me something to cry about when I got overstimulated

Melissa843 :

My daughter just taught me this. You guys gotta take an idiosyncrasi, we come from trauma. Lots of it. We don't go into it to you guys because we don't want to traumatize you just by listening to our stories. My daughter did teach me this though. We're getting along a lot better. We do need to listen to you guys. You're right, but please take it easy on us too. We're stubborn, and we're just realizing you guys are right. We're sorry for putting you through the trauma and hurting you. But we're trying.....🥺

martin martinez0107 :

I told this to my mother years back in my 20s . Haven't heard from her since. She has a grandson she doesn't even know exists. But hey her lost.

shant311y :

My mother always said “if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t cook for you guys , have a roof over your heads or clothes on your backs “ she was the best 😒

riellereid :

I realized my mom did an amazing job with what she was given. And especially how she was raised. Some parents deserve grace. We’re adults now and it’s up to us to heal from whatever we feel hurt or traumatized us. It’s torture to play as if everything is fine in front of your parents but deep down you hold a grudge or something against them. Forgiveness is to free you not anyone else. And if you’re a parent just be what you wished you had 🤷🏽‍♀️No need to carry stress around in your one and only beautiful life ❤️and if you’re not a parent don’t be so quick to blame or shame somedays it is hard and all there’s to provide is the bare minimum parents are people too and they were/are still figuring it out just like you they’re allowed to depression anxiety etc as well. Give grace 🫂

Dan Tabujara :

It's true...food and shelter, material things...these aren't full definition of parenting, but I feel like conversation like this swings too far in the other direction, emotional safety and accountability matter, boundaries and authority are often framed as emotional neglect. As a parent, you are not your child's friend, your job is to prepare them for the world, you can provide love, but you have to set firm limits, structure is not just ego, it's guidance, and pointing out what your child lack is very important, it is your job to do so, don't wait for the rest of the world to do it for you, and as a parent, if my daughter chooses to distant herself later in life, I would respect that, but I wont parent out of feat of future estrangement, I'll parent with intention and responsibility.

The Glow System :

Recovering from this as an adult and millennial parent now 🥺✨