@nadiaaddesi: Disclaimer - This framework applies to relationships where both partners are emotionally safe and acting in good faith. It does not apply to abuse, intimidation, coercion, or chronic disrespect. And it only works when both people are willing to reflect and make changes. As a couples therapist, this is one of the most common dynamics I see. One person is trying to change the relationship forward. The other is trying to keep things calm. Both make sense. Both are usually coming from love. The problem is the loop it creates. One partner starts pushing harder because they feel alone in the effort. The other starts shutting down because they feel like they can’t win. Then both people start reacting from stress instead of actually hearing each other. When you understand it as two nervous systems trying to feel safe, it gets easier to stop making each other the enemy. And it becomes easier to build a middle that works for both of you. Ib: Dr Alexandra Solomon & @bayavoce

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Neo 🐝 :

the accuracy and timing of this 😭

Meg :

Yoooo everyone roasting this stability partner in these comments, I just want peace😭

Amy Nicola :

Stability partner ahem AVOIDANT partner

Nanaramma :

Stability? You mean unaccountability.

Zanzibari :

“Stability” always goes to sleep instead of discussing 😭😭😭

vitastips :

Let’s be honest, this video didn’t even reach the “stability” partner feed 😏

gd15.11 :

Funny how the comment section is full of change partners 🥲

Backroad Barbie🤠💋 :

Peytie :

I’m sick of teaching them how to feel. How to apologize. How to act once they’ve hurt someone.

𝐹𝑎𝑡𝑜𝑜𝑚 💫 :

Girl we just broke up , it’s like talking to a wall nothing changes

Shayla :

It’s such an exhausting cycle

🫐💎 :

I feel him becoming more feminine with how he reacts to arguments

Artemis!!♿Ⓐ☭*.✧°✯ :

His fyp not mine

Nick says be.more.empathetic :

It’s so funny that we see everything as CRITICISM when it really isn’t.

__camera.roll66 :

But nothing is “stable” if I have to keep complaining about the same exact things that aren’t changing.

Tina Belcher :

Stability is not correct. That’s the “dont hold me accountable partner.”

More_MileZ :

Too late

Stephanie :

This is incredibly educational and helpful sincerely, the “change partner”

🦋Britney!ᥫ᭡  :

Damn the timing!

Stoney Tha Great :

I sound like a broken record at this point. I’m tired of talking.

djoj :

Stability partner is way too nice. That's the "shove it under the rug" partner. That's inherently destabilizing, especially in the long run. The progress partner, that's the one who's aiming for stability. True stability. Because otherwise there is peace only for the "stability" partner.

Lauren :

In my experience, the "peace keeper" is always the toxic one. And they will get triggered no matter how you word things.

Tamara :

The problem is the partner that feels like it’s never good enough was good enough in the beginning of the relationship and then they got lazy. The other partner is trying to inspire that behavior to come back because that’s the version of their partner They initially fell in love with.

Nicpandora :

I’m the one to bring it up and now I’m burnt out. Idc anymore

melody :

after seeing this video, the change/anxious one will change for their partner, tries to be understanding and will avoid triggering their partner. At the other hand the "stability"/avodiant one won't take responsibility because they're scared of that. And nothing will actually change..

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