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PellettStove :
Again with this??
2026-01-09 21:52:15
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Summer Lawson :
Girl same it’s like ingrained in me to be hyper independent and just rely on myself
2026-03-30 23:00:02
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tanzeer a :
work on your attachment style , being an avoidant is a hard and being with an avoidant is a nightmare
2026-01-08 07:07:27
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xeacott :
Like you said like you were raised to be that way, and that’s fine and everything but you’re no longer a product of your environment; you’re a product of the choices and decisions you as an adult make. If that means you want to travel all the time, nobody is actually forcing you to it’s a choice you’re making. Your current career and daily routines, the friends you love and cherish, they’re choices you wake up and make everyday. And it’s comfortable because you’re used to it and you were raised to be this way. Buuut everybody who goes into a relationship to some extent has to compromise something, like, maybe it’s traveling. You probably want someone who wants to travel, but maybe not as often as you do. And that would be a future pain point. So it’s not like what you’re willing to give up, but it’s different areas where you’re like “okay this is great, but at some point this can’t happen forever if I want xyz” or a bf. you should make a list of all the current things that you are choosing to keep as blockers and then sit down with yourself on each one and see which ones you’d be able to let go of - the outcome is that they’re replaced with things that you want in return from your relationship and/or your partner and find someone who matches that
2026-01-17 21:48:10
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needswashed :
recovering disorganised girlie here but the cure is the same for both of us: you gotta sit through the discomfort and go towards the resistance. the thought of him interfering in your routine makes you feel engulfed? that means let him into one tiny bit of your routine that you can realistically be flexible abt without losing your whole self (ex: maybe let him talk to you at night for 20 min on the phone when you would normally be using that time for yourself). it suckssss and feels so uncomfortable but it's worth it to become secure 🤍
2026-01-08 04:00:09
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jwolf631 :
when you figure this out let me know
2026-01-09 14:07:27
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shecracked :
We gotta get u in some hypnotherapy idk
2026-01-08 03:42:25
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Elias :
My parents are the best independent example ever. They do their own thing no questions asked but are there for each other when it counts. I feel the same as it’s a deal breaker for me within a relationship.
2026-01-08 18:53:05
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Josh Rego :
I normally don’t comment on any posts but my wife was the same way, and she said I made her want to do things differently. So I guess don’t change who you are, definitely don’t force yourself to change for somebody, when you meet the right person, they’ll like you for who you are and not ask you to change but they’ll make you want to do things maybe differently. Just my two cents
2026-01-08 03:12:37
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west69 :
Do you not like willies lol
2026-01-10 15:02:30
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Dione :
I was like 27 when I got in my first relationship. Mine was from childhood emotional neglect. Just felt safer relying on myself. But just keep dating & find someone that’s cool with it! If you like them & they add to your life, keep them around. But honor your need for space.
2026-01-08 04:54:06
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Noah Furgerson :
Abandonment
2026-01-08 02:57:57
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ztownboy :
Don't be with someone just to be with someone.
2026-01-08 03:42:19
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Matt :
You’ll know it when you feel it. You’ll want him to join your routines, but only for the right person.
2026-01-09 20:49:49
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Gabi Alva | Life abroad :
it's our full time travel lifestyle problem 🥹😅
2026-01-08 08:28:42
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Caroline McKay :
You’ll find your king 💗🤗
2026-01-08 14:44:39
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Olivia Faria :
Same sis
2026-01-08 07:38:06
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therealnotabot :
I think your personal independence is great! And you’re still young so you should lean into this more. What you ultimately want is partnership which won’t feel like your independence is being taken away but rather supported. Be patient, dude. You’ll figure this out.
2026-01-09 16:44:11
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Wasabieye :
Focus on you first, you’ll know when you’re ready for a relationship.
2026-02-20 18:28:28
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theJOKERsmoker🤪🔫 :
Coming from experience, you’re partner should become your best friend. You need to become a team together. 🤜🏻🤛🏻
2026-02-19 00:00:42
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Laura&Willow :
nervous system somatic therapy for attachment wounding
2026-02-16 15:10:16
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k_t :
Independence and Interdependence is the difference between hurting and healing
2026-02-13 04:29:08
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MANDO :
I feel the same way!
2026-01-08 03:39:06
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