Kate, I wondered if you had advice for parents of “well behaved” children. My 7 year old is just good. He doesn’t throw tantrums or freak out or break rules. But I don’t want him to wrap his identity around being good or feel pressured to be so. I want to make sure he feels safe to screw up but I don’t know how to show him that experience!
2026-01-12 21:54:32
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Beyond No Contact :
So true — when you hold a boundary — ie give a no — the other’s reactions is really important to pay attention to. Often what we are in as adults is founded in our childhood. This is certainly something to explore💯
2026-01-27 16:10:50
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tapespool :
Not respecting a 'no'marks them as unhealthy, but respecting a "no" early on doesn't mean they're healthy. Coercive control is domestic abuse. Most abusers will never admit that they only said what they knew the woman wanted to hear or what wouldn't make them look bad but then did everything else in their power to get their way through indirect methods e.g. from feigning I'll ess or injury to being negative/critical about the component parts of the boundary or things related to it
2026-02-25 02:01:58
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Atley :
What if you have said no over and over and they keep going and you can’t escape? Do you play the game when you know people gave you the wrong food on purpose? No. Because they are just messing with you. Restaurants have been poisoning me and intentionally giving me the wrong food for years now. But, they are doing it on purpose. So why play their stupid game?
2026-01-13 12:59:42
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beysop :
its so exhausting watching women describe common human experiences... and then essentialize it on gender lines. Even with professional licensure, you just dont have the range of understanding that you think you do and would rather dismiss the very common humanity of men to sell some journals. What a shame.
2026-01-16 10:17:16
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