Codependency Kate
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Thursday 15 January 2026 18:27:38 GMT
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🏳️⚧️ human rights 🍉 :
Thank you! I hate when someone tells me they have PDA etc. and expect me to deal with they’re shitty behavior. I’m late diagnosed autistic, adhd, perimenopausal and a sprinkle of all the other stuff that comes with it but i’m an adult also. I’m still learning about myself and so can anybody else. Btw. your videos help a lot. 💜
2026-01-16 20:35:31
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Anon :
Also referred to as persistent drive for autonomy
2026-01-15 23:03:07
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pikeyt2d :
I experience a lot of demand avoidance and so does my husband. It's something I actively work on through reframing and I expect the same from him.
2026-01-15 23:07:40
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Jac 🇨🇦♾️🏳️🌈📚🤓🧘🏻♀️ :
PDA is more than just listening to others 🙄 it’s avoiding everything! Like eating, using the toilet, etc
2026-01-15 23:31:02
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The AuDHD therapist :
If an adult has PDA it’s their job to learn to understand it so they can meet their own needs. It’s not everyone else’s job to change in order to not affect them. The same with RSD - get curious, why am I feeling this way? What do I need? Compassion is key ♥️
2026-01-17 19:10:24
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Janet :
@Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. has some great insight on PDA!
2026-01-15 18:37:44
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Janae :
💯
2026-01-18 22:56:55
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Sabl16 :
My child has pda profile autism and we are teaching her that she has accountability just the same and that she is to accept the consequences of her reactions to situations. Alongside therapy and OT for improved coping and functioning. Kids are permissively parented in the name of their diagnoses which leads to a dysfunctional adult. Kids need boundaries and reinforcing of them more so with pda. It’s very easy to slip into permissive parenting and once you do, it’s so hard for the child to regain control of their anxiety and nervous system after that loss of security and coregulation is minimally effective for awhile. One slip sets you back a year, I swear. I’m hopeful that better understanding of neuro development disorders and move to authoritative parenting will help more pda kids grow into secure adults. They need authoritative parenting the most.
2026-01-27 12:55:47
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wickedwren82 :
You’re one of the very few people I’ve heard who states plainly that individuals with PDA and RSD still have a responsibility to receive criticism, complaints, or even simple feedback. Many clinicians, even those trained in neurodiversity, tend to shift this responsibility onto the partner, expecting disproportionate accommodation. While accommodations can be appropriate, they’re often left implicit and unnamed, which limits awareness and ultimately reinforces relational asymmetry. As a result, people with ASD, ADHD, or AuDHD, particularly men, frequently aren’t supported in learning about their own patterns, and even less so about their partner’s experience. Much of the time therapy ends up reinforcing the asymmetry in the relationship because the therapist is going to center and accommodate the ASD person (often male) even if the partner is neurodivergent too (often female).
2026-01-16 13:51:50
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