@scott.austin.martin: "This goes both ways, dude." I hear this a lot when I talk about women's safety being the prerequisite for intimacy. And, here's the truth Men face emotional danger. Women face physical and sexual danger. They're not the same. 1 in 3 women will experience violence in their lifetime (and that is only from REPORTED stats...). And when we make her safety about our effort or our good heart, we're making it about us. But what's actually being discussed is the current state of her nervous system. If she doesn't feel safe, your intentions are irrelevant. Authentic masculinity requires the capacity to understand your own armor and collapse patterns. It requires you to stop being the victim of her distance and start being the force that stabilizes her environment. Start with SAFE: The Minimum Standard for Intimacy. It's the foundational baseline. Stop making it about you. Start building a foundation she can actually lean on. Link in bio. #dating #relationshiptips #relationships #nervoussystem

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