@making_senseofit_w.katt: When an estranged adult child returns, relief can make parents forget what it took to survive the estrangement in the first place. This video is about why the return is often the most vulnerable moment for parents, how fear and hope can lead to self-abandonment, and why slowing the return is essential to staying in parental authority. Reconciliation isn’t about emotional relief or access — it’s about alignment, structure, and mutual responsibility. A relationship that can tolerate boundaries has the potential to grow. One that collapses under structure was never ready to be repaired. #fyp #relationships #estranged #nocontact #dontdoit
I miss and love my daughter but it will never be the same again.
2026-01-18 15:37:07
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Saved by grace :
I don’t want a person back in my life that did not care how much they hurt me. Trust is broken and gone !
2026-01-19 00:37:57
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Robinette :
I don’t want her back. I am moving several states away and I’m not letting my family know. I have already changed all my policies and no she gets nothing. She made me the villain in her story. I wrote the first chapters of her life and I know better. I will always love her and I miss her.
2026-01-18 22:28:47
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TheJournalingTherapist :
Parental authority over an adult? What do you mean by that?
2026-01-18 16:08:01
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frogs.and.penguins :
my eldest son came back. but it was worse. i had to admit i was the problem and beg to see the grandkids. i had to let go.
2026-01-18 09:47:49
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Debbey :
Fool me once……
2026-01-18 12:14:13
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Paradise Island :
I am destroyed. Mentally, physically and emotionally…..
2026-01-18 15:31:17
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Ginger GA :
There’s no recovery from estrangement. Best to not ever put yourself back in that position. For me, i do not ever want to reconcile. I protect my peace & sanity.
2026-01-18 19:07:20
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Helena :
wtf there is more to come????
2026-01-18 10:11:44
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lethadockery :
I have resigned myself to never seeing my child again. I will not have a repeat.
2026-01-18 16:30:12
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❌Gammie❌ :
I’m moving away so he will have to put effort in to see me. This has been too much pain. 🥺
2026-01-18 10:41:30
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Sugarbritches ❌ :
I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not open to reunification
2026-01-19 06:14:48
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Theresa :
survived 2 estrangements. I should have known better. ❤
2026-01-18 17:28:59
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Trying.My.Best :
I think that’s why I don’t reach out… I don’t want to go through this ever again and I’ve lost a lot of trust.
2026-01-18 12:52:02
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Penny Marshall-pagon :
on round 2 now, I blame my self for allowing them back in.
2026-01-18 20:02:06
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Ange#71 :
I disagree. I was estranged from my son for about 4 years. We reconnected and have rebuilt our relationship on trust, honesty and love ❤️I know I am extremely blessed.
2026-01-27 00:03:12
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ladybug :
I have decided to not have a swinging door to my heart
2026-01-19 01:32:34
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Mary :
thank you for this advice ❤
2026-01-18 11:41:32
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Laura Walters :
my older brother has been no contact with my parents almost 2 years and me 8 months. It is difficult to hear my mom talk about it, she goes over and over everything. She told me tonight she sent him an email at Christmas wishing him a merry Christmas. I feel for her, I don't know how to support her but it upsets me listening to it. Although I miss him, the walking on egg shells around him constantly I don't miss.
2026-01-19 01:11:10
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Genjones1758 :
There will be no returning on my part. I found out my relationship was based on constant exploitation. Once you you cant be manipulated you learn complete independance.
2026-01-18 14:36:21
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sugarcloud96 :
They have earned your distance. ❤️🩹
2026-01-19 01:52:38
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faux_ari 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺 :
Leading with relief? When my adult daughter comes back into my life, which she does when she wants something like money, I now lead with scepticism.
2026-01-18 10:31:04
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stkslvr :
I’m sorry but it goes both ways. It’s not always the kids fault for the estrangement…
2026-01-20 00:19:01
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Louisetowler :
The healing in estranged relationships does not come from the child “coming back.”
It begins when the parent feels safe in themselves again.
2026-01-19 06:29:34
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