MOTHICA
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Celeste :
AFAB and currently using she/they pronouns and yes I absolutely understand what you mean. I’m also alt leaning and I have short hair, so I feel like I’m playing dress up when I try to dress more “soft” and “girly”
2026-01-19 00:38:08
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KEL 🇬🇧🏳️🌈🦇 :
remember girls are not always dainty and soft, they're strong and magical. being feminine is whatever you decide it is. gender stereotypes are why this stuff hurts.
2026-03-08 21:54:45
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ash 🐦⬛ :
yep! i don’t feel or look “feminine enough” but i also don’t feel or look “androgynous enough” to align with non-binary. so my solution for myself is just using she/they 🤷🏼♀️
2026-01-19 00:37:45
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Jess / Finch :
not at all trying to diagnose you via tiktok but if you are neurodivergent, sometimes that can come with having a hard time feeling connected to gender!
2026-01-19 07:03:18
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Ellie :
I think it starts with being soft with yourself. It took me along time to find my soft girl era but it took a lot of rethinking and learning to love myself and embrace the things that make me *feel* soft and feminine. Other people’s perception is not your problem, but I understand the fear. The reality is most people who judge are just insecure about themselves and who the project themselves to be because they also feel like they’re pretending. You’re perfect.
2026-01-19 00:45:32
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Lucid 🐝 Bee 🇨🇦 :
It's just called being a tomboy, it's normal but society makes us feel weird about it. Just embrace who you are girl.
2026-02-07 02:44:45
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Valentina Vee :
I think we have been conditioned to believe that femininity has to exist in a particular way. Style of dress, manner of speaking, etc. You don’t have to feel feminine to be a woman. But if you want to feel “feminine” but it fits like a costume, then it’s worth taking a look internally and addressing those feelings. I think making this video and asking for advice is a good first step.
2026-01-19 00:38:25
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El-wah-luigi :
I feel like we're all just cosplaying when we look at others of our gender as the ideal. I think it's a trap to not feel "gendered" enough, I think it's normal to feel insecure about it.
2026-01-19 00:39:37
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Cammy :
I identify as queer all around and it helped me redefine my worth outside of what society expects out of me esp regarding to how “fem/masc/whatever” I am any given day ☺️
2026-03-16 04:52:27
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Vi_Frost907 :
I’ve always felt like I am a masculine woman, not in the style sense, but like. I’m a man with woman parts. I’m happy in my body, but I’ve never been dainty or frail. Strong body, strong mind, strong willpower. Ya know, what most people see in men. I use cloths as a tool/accessory to represent my comfort, mood, and event. Nothing more nothing less.
2026-01-20 21:10:14
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Xaenia :
feels like a game i’m playing incorrectly
2026-01-19 00:33:45
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Xanyth :
I'm a trans woman, so I'm very familiar with that feeling of not performing femininity 'correctly'. But I've learned that everyone is performing to some degree. It's incredibly rare that someone has everything together the same way they project to the world. I done have any specific advice, but just know that you aren't alone in this feeling. ❤️
2026-01-19 00:51:35
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Mitchie Monroe | 📸 🎸 :
I feel this too, I feel like I am at war with parts of me where one feels it is only safe to wear jeans and a baggie hoodie with no makeup and dress like a masc but at the same time I want to be feminine and dress like Sabrina Carpenter does. Every time I try to look feminine, I crawl out of my skin with anxiety and feel fake. 🥲
2026-01-19 00:40:30
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deathandsaints :
I feel like I'm if a woman was a Lacroix. I was born a female so there's something but it's so faint it's barely there.
2026-01-19 13:08:55
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Casual Mangos :
I typically have my nails and hair done and wear dresses and things like that pretty often and it always feels weird and I'm always insecure and just know that if not all of us,a good chunk of us also feel the way you do. especially those of us who are neurospicy.
2026-01-19 20:26:24
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Magpie :
I never learned how to do my hair beyond a ponytail. I never learned makeup or fashion because my parents felt it was “shallow and vain.” Any time I try to wear anything other than jeans and a hoodie I feel like a liar and fake, and I just watch other women who are all dressed-up with envy because I would give anything to feel that way, to know how to feel pretty instead of feeling like a gremlin.
2026-01-19 17:58:03
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Lacie :
I felt like this my whole life, realized as an adult I’m non binary 🤷🏻♀️
2026-03-18 22:38:00
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ms williams if ya nasty :
in a way it feels the same to me as wearing a hat when you don’t wear hats and thinking everyone’s gonna know that this is my first time wearing a hat and im not a hat wearer
2026-01-19 01:03:54
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Du.Bisgut.Denug :
Just do whatever bro
2026-01-19 00:38:03
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shimmy shimmy bop :
so i feel the same 😔
2026-01-30 03:07:21
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Sarah Rose :
YES. It feels like gender dysphoria but I identify with my assigned gender so thats not it either. I want to be feminine but I feel so masculine.
2026-01-21 00:42:39
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Samantha ♡ :
hardcore relatable 🫂
2026-02-11 17:18:58
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Koral ᖭི༏ᖫྀ :
I’m gender fluid and once I realized that, I can be both at the drop of a hat that made me feel more secure. As long as you are happy with yourself that’s ok🙂
2026-01-19 05:13:24
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xo_fatale :
AFAB they/them here. Despite how I identify, I lean into femininity and cosplay as cis for my social safety. I spent two decades as a girl, so I should be a pro. but no amount of mermaid magic has been able to make me someone I am not. Feeling this way doesn't mean you ought to identify as I do, but it does mean that in order to feel at home in your skin you may need to reframe what it means for you to be a woman. You'll find a flock that are just your kind. Mothica, you are one of the most stylish, beautiful, radiant, and talented women there are.🖤
2026-01-26 17:48:35
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