Two Hot Takes
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Thursday 22 January 2026 02:56:55 GMT
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jkru :
I was widowed young, so coming from a place of understanding, if you are still wearing your late spouses wedding ring you aren't emotionally ready for a new relationship.
2026-01-22 03:04:36
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Kitschy Kats :
He’s not ready to date.
2026-01-22 03:02:33
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Byleth :
if you date a person who's spouse has died. You HAVE to be prepared for them to still love their departed love. They didnt break up, their spouse died and if you cant except being in a relationship whole will always love someone else you probably shouldn't be dating someone with a past like that
2026-01-22 04:29:13
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Serena!☕ :
definitely not fully committed to the new relationship 😬
2026-01-22 03:02:21
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Blake :
the necklace and different finger was a great compromise, OP wasn’t wrong for any of this
2026-01-22 09:21:25
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Reid :
I agree with other comments saying that neither are at fault. I also agree he is NOT ready to move on. I think Op made a thoughtful suggestion for a compromise. She certainly doesn’t seem to want to erase the former wife. She just want to be the priority.
2026-01-22 04:25:31
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Desert Flower :
I’ve been a widow for 4 1/2 years. Wore my ring for two years after his death. I can’t imagine dating while wearing the ring. I think removing the ring is one of the signals that you might be ready to date.
2026-01-22 04:46:35
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JDottie🌺🌈💜 :
He’s not ready to date, don’t move in.
2026-01-22 10:47:52
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WVDawnsky :
He’s not ready to move on.
2026-01-22 03:00:34
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Nissaa :
necklace is a great compromise, he prob still hasn't moved on and is not committed with op
2026-01-22 03:37:45
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LittleFooot94 :
Am I the only one who doesn’t think its that deep for him to wear it?
2026-01-22 16:57:11
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🌻 • 𝙽 𝚒 𝚔 𝚔 𝚒 • 🌻 :
I’m not dating anybody who’s wearing a wedding ring, widow or not. I get grieving but that’s a sign that you’re not ready to date just yet.
2026-01-22 19:24:59
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Di Kattz :
He’s not ready. Don’t move on together. If you want to casually date maybe but I doubt he will face his grief like he should if you stay together
2026-01-22 03:21:47
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Marisa June :
They didn’t break up, she died….
2026-01-23 22:41:50
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potatogirl0.0 :
neither are wrong both are completely valid emotions. losing someone you love is something you can never get over. you need to choose to live now or reminisce about the before. you’re not forgetting anybody by moving forward t’s just accepting/ coming to terms with what happened
2026-01-22 03:18:02
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TX Lib :
I knew a woman who was a widow who married a widower. They each had children. She shifted her wedding set from her first marriage to her right hand and wore her wedding set from her second husband on her left. He was not threatened by that, and it was a comfort to her kids, too. Conversely, my mom stopped wearing her wedding rings a year after my dad died, because her boyfriend gave her a fashion ring. They were married a couple months shy of 40 years when my dad died. She LOVED those rings. It’s a very unique set. It still bugs me, because I would never, unless I remarried.
2026-01-22 05:20:46
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Eeelaine :
I dont think it is normal to be jealous of a dead spouse...if hes making her feel that way, it's not meant to be.
2026-01-22 03:13:20
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DarienMishelle :
not willing to compromise and wear it on a necklace, leave him, he's not ready. same as if you were to still be wearing an old engagement ring. sentimental yes, wear it on a necklace.
2026-01-27 16:33:56
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Paradox :
I thinking removing the ring from that finger represent that his wife has truly passed and he is not ready for that finality. Which is ok he just needs to be honest with himself and her.
2026-01-22 13:29:01
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Bryanna N. :
Did no one see outlander!? Just move it to the other hand!
2026-01-22 03:14:22
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Nicola Jones-Herdman :
My dad is a widower, he wears his wedding ring on his right hand now, we did research that’s the way you honor your late spouse they are still with you but not in marriage
2026-02-25 20:38:04
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Christine Woerner :
I honestly think he doesn’t want to pretend she never existed. He doesn’t correct ppl when they ask, so he’s not bringing her up. If I were op, I might ask him what happens if they get married? Is he going to wear two rings? Make a custom ring that includes his past & his future out of the existing ring?
2026-01-22 03:24:13
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Donnell & Co. :
His current gf is a placeholder for his loneliness. Assuming: He doesn't keep her cereal bowl on the same part of the counter that she left it that morning or her toothbrush and makeup sprawled out in the bathroom. At some point after going through the stages of grief he will move on. Therefore, if he still has not removed or "moved" that part of her because he still grieves her then he is not ready. Grief may always remain but it is in his heart in the recesses of his memories, not at the forefront of all of who he is. The commenter on this post was right.
2026-01-22 13:15:09
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Aimee1213 :
everyone grieves on thier own timeline. You can’t rush it.
2026-01-22 04:54:03
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Byleth :
Also I get the wedding ring being on the left hand ring finger is big for others, but why cant the new spouse have the right hand ring finger? Why does he HAVE to move the ring for society to accept that hes moved on and ready. Maybe hes not ready but if I were to date someone with a dead spouse that still wore their ring I'd put the new ring on his right hand. You should never be jealous of a dead spouse and should be ready to go into the relationship knowing that you will never be their first love but you can always be their last and if thats too much for you then find someone else
2026-01-22 04:35:44
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