@fashionably.divorced: If you find your man on a dating up, don’t bother confronting him about it. Move in silence and plan your exit. #datingapps #cheater #cheatingboyfriend #cheatinghusband #cheatingmen

🌻Flower-Child :

You start saving, stacking cash, packing all your evidence and put somewhere else. Start preparing for your new life without him.

lamy :

I found alot of my friends husbands on Tinder….. 🙄🙄

Angela Ruggles :

I would catfish him and show up to the date.

Nataly :

Sometimes it’s better to speak _after_ you leave. Some men are dangerous in rage. And men do get upset losing what’s they thought belong to them forever…

Linda Mermaid 💙 :

To the young women who aren’t married: men’s behavior like this is so prevalent, there’s no reason for you to believe that he won’t do it to you. always put yourself first. Have your own money, your own job, a safe place to go if you need it. If you get married, don’t change your name. It’s extremely difficult to change it back. If you own anything like real estate, get a prenup first. if you sell any of your assets to purchase something jointly with him, make sure you can get all that equity back if you divorce. I learned this lesson the hard way.

babayaga2022 :

absolutely 💯 but this comes with maturity. emotions usually take over and people blab

Sarah :

Excellent advice, this was how I left my first husband. I said nothing. Yep, got tested. Set up separate bank account etc. I physically left while he was at work

Velvet Willadsen :

This is the best way to do it. Make up your mind to leave him and make your plans before you confront him. He will absolutely never tell you the whole truth. He will tell you what he thinks is forgivable. Don't fall for it.

it’sbrianna.bitch :

Me watching the whole thing single

user1927882946955 :

Yeah the worst thing you can do is confront him!!!! Sets you back with his lies

Michelle :

take your time, discuss with attorney and therapist only

moojay :

I thought this was advice for like when you first match with someone you like on a dating app 😅😅😅😅😅

I Can't Even 🇨🇦 :

and this is why you NEVER put yourself in a position to rely on a man and not earn your own money

Elizabeth Ann :

There is no point in trying to get a liar to tell you the truth. Trust yourself. Give yourself permission to believe what you know is true. Don't believe a liar. Believe you

Lilly Luver :

Yes!! Yes stay quiet! Leave quietly it’s not easy but it’s the best!

Irene :

The answer is stay away from dating apps. 💯

Melanie :

Divorced a cheater in 2014, man I've been at peace for YEARS. This is all solid advice.

connecticutvalleygirl 🇺🇸 :

When i was in my early 20s in the late 80s, an older woman told me "Always keep a kitty on the side and put in a little every week, just in case" Im 59 now and I'll never forget that.

Sun&Sand :

Well thought out, emotionless action is key.

gawja2025 :

Stay moving and saving money, call EVERY SINGLE GOOD DIVORCE LAWYER in your area and make an appointment for a consultation so he cannot use them, start a notebook and save ALL evidence, and start looking for a job/places, and delete all your social media just for now!

Freya Thorne | Magic & Mystery :

Mine told me it's his mom who signed him up and he has to be on it to keep her happy

gorgeous_lemon_guidance :

I fist thought you were gonna give us dating advice then slowly it dawned on me.. lol😂

Something Old Something Newfie :

V :

Young women, as a 40+ married, I have some advice. First piece is that if your future partner makes a fuss about any of the following things I am suggesting, it's immediately a red flag and you should think carefully about whether they are safe to be in your life. 1) Keep separate bank accounts. Open a joint account and work out how much each other's share of the bills is (for me it's 50/50, but this might not be the case for everyone). When you get paid, set up a standing order to pay your share of the bills into the joint account. Have all bills paid from that account. Keep the rest of your wages to yourself in an account he doesn't have access to. It makes it easier to disentangle finances if you need to. 2) Any loans, mortgages, finance agreements should be joint where applicable and individual if they relate to things bought for one person - if you buy a house together you should be named on the deeds as joint owners and pay jointly into the mortgage. Do not let him convince you it's 'easier' to just have it in his name - it's not. It's a ticky box - option 1 or option 2. If he takes out a loan for HIS car, it should be in his name only. Do not saddle yourself with his debt. If it's practical, keep ownership of things like cars simple - his car, his registration, his loan, insurance, tax. Your car, your registration, your loan, your insurance, your tax, etc. Do not take on joint responsibility for his stuff unless you know it's a joint purchase you will have access to. 3) Do not let him convince you to leverage equity in your house against loans for transient things like cars. Only leverage equity for things that will improve the value of the property being leveraged. E.g. By all means borrow on the house for a new kitchen, bathroom, extension, conservatory, new boiler or heating, new roof, redone driveway, etc. But don't borrow against the house for cars or holidays or weird crypto investments. 4) If you choose to take his name or don't choose to, it's up to you, but don't let yourself be pressured either way. I couldn't wait to ditch my maiden name. It's your choice.... Continued in replies as I'm at my character limit.