@jessicaoutofthecloset: Am I… a mother? Of course! But also… kind of not legally? By U.K. law I’m a ‘parent’, not a ‘mother’, because I didn’t give birth. Parenthood isn’t defined by bits, biology, or outdated laws- it’s defined by love, care, and the realities of our families. The people who show up for you no matter what ARE your family🏳️‍⚧️💖 The UK legal system has a problem accepting that though: forcing transmen who give birth to be listed as ‘mother’ on birth certificates and leaving few options for non-binary parents to be properly recognised. Families come in flavours of the rainbow and children deserve to have their parents correctly recognised. Everyone deserves paperwork that reflects who they are! (But also you don’t need a piece of paper to make your lived experience valid. The legal system in this country is ANCIENT and in many ways trying to drag itself backwards rather than forwards) If you believe UK laws should recognise real families, not outdated definitions, tell your MP! Tag them in the comments. Let’s push for gender-inclusive parenthood options and birth certificates that reflect lived reality. 
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bumble194
Bumble :
Can't it just be "birth parent" and "other parent"?
2026-02-27 22:40:50
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kata_chaos
Chaos :
Birthing parent? that's a phrase that already exists
2026-02-06 23:02:04
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carakcarpenter
CaraKCarpenter :
Hear me out: if they want to track who physically gave birth they can just add a check box to the birth certificate and then let the parents choose their own titles
2026-02-06 22:31:10
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yassofficer
on patrol 💅 :
Mother (birth giver), Father (birth giver), parent (birth giver) if you need to track
2026-02-07 08:35:29
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not.just.nat
Nat LeLe | 🇨🇦CPST | Mom Life :
In Canada, you can have up to 4 parents listed on the birth certificate!
2026-02-07 04:05:35
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tainted_bloody
Bloody :
What if you add -ship after mother
2026-02-07 09:38:39
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educatingcole
Cole 🫶 :
Gave birth to my son, clearly very male presenting, legally down as Mother on his birth certificate. ALSO why is FATHER above MOTHER on birth certificates?
2026-02-08 09:17:39
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charlesdtrans
Charles D 🏳️‍⚧️🔯🇵🇸 :
As the transmasc child of two lesbian mother's, I hate that these issues have still not been solved!! Also, yes, my non biological mother was my mother. Even if she was not related to me. Even if the law would not let here be a legal parent (back then). She was my real mother. They both were.
2026-02-06 22:15:58
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goblinofthegarden
Forest_goblin 🇦🇺🏳️‍🌈 :
In Australia, I grew my children inside me. Years on I changed my birth certificate to match my true self. Legally they do not allow those changes to be updated on the kids certificates so legally, their 'mother' does not exist. That hurts.
2026-02-07 22:36:37
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eletricwing
Maymay 51%🚦 :
and what about adoption? if the mother listed has to be the one who gave birth to the child, what about children who were adopted?
2026-02-07 16:32:37
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melovelifenotreally
•°☆WEIII☆°• :
YOU HAVE A WIFE AND KIDS??HOW DID I MISS IT
2026-02-07 19:55:53
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ormenhinlange
ormenhinlange :
danish documents use "co-mother" (medmor) for the mother who didn't give birth
2026-02-08 01:06:33
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strange..gal
ℝ𝕦𝕓𝕪 :
Why can’t everyone just be listed as “bringer of life”
2026-02-26 06:18:45
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lemonlilly_
lemonlilly🍋 :
I feel like it would be nicer if they remove the gendered labels entirely and simply had three labels, one for the parent who gave birth, one for a biological parent who did not give birth, and one for a legal parent who is not biologically the parent, It prevents inaccurate labels and makes things easier in all situations
2026-02-08 04:16:37
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daeseregruin
daeseregruin :
IMO the birth certificate should say Parent for both, with a tick box for Bio Relation and another for Birthing Parent. If neither were the Birthing Parent then there should be a sub-section labeled Known Bio Donor (Egg/Sperm), and Surrogate.
2026-02-07 10:44:49
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chiarabookworm
chiarabookworm :
I might be over simplifying this, but surely labelling one as the birth parent and the other as parent would be simpler. It cover what they need, but is also gender neutral?
2026-02-07 08:29:44
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curtisfamily2.0
Curtis Family :
They need to call the person who gave birth a specific name because they automatically have parental rights. I would have thought they could easily change it to something neutral
2026-02-07 14:54:56
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mysuggestedusername
Mysuggestedusername :
Why can’t it just say parent and parent. I’m sure the child can work out who gave birth to them if they want to.
2026-02-07 18:16:53
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valerybackup95
☆Valery☆[tv] :
Birth parent: bla bla, Father [x]: bla bla, Mother [x]: bla bla, Parent [x]: bla bla. boom solved.
2026-02-07 09:55:20
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autisticirl
🏳️‍🌈 Autistic IRL ♿️ :
“Birth parent” would be so much easier…but as someone with genetic conditions, methinks that having a database of “mothers” to search is easier for them when it comes to eugenics, and who they want having more babies or not 😒
2026-03-01 05:00:53
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emmagilbert2410
Emma Gilbert :
I’m a mother, my wife is also our daughters mother. Both biological. I birthed her. She is just as much of a mother as me, probably even more so than me. She’s a stay at home mum. I agree with this completely
2026-02-07 07:46:49
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jannatreadsandcolours
Jannat🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿📚🎨 :
I am non binary, I am mother. but I dont speak for my entire community. I support all options available for everyone. birthed by : would be much better
2026-02-07 17:02:04
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tiad496
Tia :
This is really interesting! I never knew this and will definitely be a consideration when me and my partner have kids
2026-02-06 20:11:48
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shabbybaker388
Shabby Baker :
They decided that mother isn't gendered which is why the person who gives birth is recorded as the mother irrespective of gender. It's an interesting and obscure definition which matches the UK legal system. They care more about the mother than father as the mother has to be the biological mother and the father or other parent doesn't have to be genetically related due to the amount of fathers who aren't the biological father.
2026-02-07 11:25:22
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sleepy3187
Sleepy :
I work for my local county council and when I did my training in registrations, my jaw was dropped the entire time, because what in the actual 1800s is this? 😱😓
2026-02-07 08:23:29
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