@thesydneyfinn: Replying to @JulieMarie #relationshipadviceforwomen #datingadviceforwomen #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #avoidantattachmentstyle

DreadTitan18 :

Two biggest red lights that I've come across: 1) one word responses 2) 12+ hours to respond

Calicocococo :

Examples of these red lights ?

olivia ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ :

i liked his story why isnt he messaging me 🙄

KIKA® :

When you said accidentally communicating disinterest I felt CLOCKEDDDD

MJ 📚 :

He’ll react/respond to my texts but doesn’t initiate anymore

Justin L :

I remember asking a girl on a date, her saying yes, me asking when would she be available and that message being ignored, me saying good morning the next day and that message being ignored as well. Then getting a message two weeks later "I thought you said you wanted to go on a date, why did you ghost me?"

Mateo .🇺🇾 :

FockUimOut (Nyre) :

True. Been dating someone almost a year and for a couple of months it slowed down to nothing. I realized I was giving off vibes that confused him. We talked and its been fine since.

. :

Examples of green and red lights like lots of examples plss :)

G 🦋 :

I think I’m guilty of this! I act off and expect him to chase but he just thinks I’m disinterested, I act off because I felt he was off then it’s a cycle. I find it hard to change otherwise I would fear I sound needy. Takes self control to not do that!

TastefullNewt :

Never initiating conversations is a red light.

Rajio 🇨🇦 :

if i have to chase then they're running away. if they're running away i respect that choice. i'd be a jerk if i didnt.

James Hunter :

Which also in turn means that the men they do connect with are ignoring those red lights and are probably not the men they want to get involved with.

Michael the Prophet :

Texting is stupid. I hate texting.

Luke :

it's almost as if in a relationship you have to reciprocate interest and love

ani :

when they stop texting I give up💖 i dont beg for attention

afia ★ :

girl do NOT delude me rn 😭🙏

Crow_knight :

When I was first talking to my current girlfriend I tried ghosting her because every time I flirted with her or tried to make any move she’d back away and give me looks. Turns out she thought I was too cute and was nervous

blackheartryan :

I'm not going to text someone that isn't interested in me, no matter how interested in them I might be. So the second I get a red light, I stop. Lacking clear communication to continue, I never will.

V :

Girl!!!! You’ve helped me realize I’m avoidant and I’m dating a new amazing man and you’ve helped me so so so much 🥺💕

Randi :

I think I’m an anxiously attached turned avoidant and idk what to do anymore lollll

R :

Can u speak on men who see the red lights and keep intensely pursuing

. :

Im soooo guilty of this, but i can’t help it😭i also get so nervous and shy i don’t even make eye-contact and SO many guys left bc of this. Oh well, it’s my fatal flaw

boshcontrol :

Aw whaTEVER