@get.podgems: Relationships aren’t about keeping score. Learn the early signs of a downward spiral and how to reverse it before it’s too late. #RelationshipAdvice #LoveTips #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipRedFlags #CommunicationMatters

SmallSpoon :

Isn’t this resentment?

Raquel Castillo :

what if you keep changing behaviors but your partner doesn't follow

ASO’G :

“Love…keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

𝕽𝕽 :

Change behavior > Change partners

FOLASHADE🫶🏽 :

Just stay single…. The best thing

Life of a detailer :

Yes but if you're the only one doing and doing .. then you're left with one person getting taken advantage of .

Raj R1717 :

Been on the downward spiral for 10 years. You can’t change the cycle trust me

CactusCouch :

I’ve been doing that since the beginning. He literally begged me to date him, it’s been 3 years. I’ve completely decentered him. I no longer care what he does, I keep a tally In my head and when reaches a threshold I’m leaving.

Betsy Petrocelli :

But the problem is that if you do one right thing every week or you be kind and you are a giver, but it’s not reciprocal eventually you kind of get tired of pouring

KyGirl :

But.. don’t most marriages kinda do this sometimes

Harlequin :

Can you really come back from this down spiral??

Duff :

I don’t think people remember the right things they do for each other. They look at all the wrong things you did, but they have a list of all the right things they did for you. And when you ask what right things you did she says nothing. And when you name them? They don’t matter

Guaranteed Personified :

It takes two to tango

Andrew Ikoya :

U r so correct. This competition spirit really finishes many relationships.

Lynne Cooper :

This is exactly what my marriage was. I'm happily single now. xx

Nat_DigitalSAHM :

But we are both Taurus and both stubborn .

Kristian :

Ai with Mando :

wow corinthians

Justice :

That sums it up perfectly, “Now what?”

Erin :

This only works if both people do it

Avz :

it ends when you don't even count anymore.. just don't care

ADHDspot :

What happens after you decide to be nice and do something sweet and warm but that does not reciprocate and your the only one.

SillySally :

This is by far one of the truest statements ever!

Mia G :

The best piece of advice I’ve ever gotten was from an elderly man who just lost his wife of 50+ years. He said, “Communication is the single most valuable skill you can have going into a relationship. It revolves around everything you do with one another. My wife and I took 15 min out of our day and talked about everything. No one getting upset or mad, we both listened.”

The Grand Chawhee :

Yes but the problem becomes when you feel like you are doing those positive things but still only getting negative in return. Both ppl need to pick up on the positive cues