@bayavoce: Ever notice how you forgive someone and then a week later you're irritated again? A lot of people think resentment means they're not healed yet. Most of the time it means you tried to forgive but nothing actually changed. So your body keeps the score. You said it's fine and meant it in your head but you didn't get safety or repair, you didn't get a different outcome. Resentment comes back as a self protective warning. It's the part of you saying if I fully let this go I'm agreeing to it happening again. Forgiveness without change doesn't bring peace, it brings vigilance and until something actually shifts, behavior, accountability, limits, your nervous system keeps you honest about whether you forgave too soon. #forgiveness #resentment #boundaries
What if behavior is actually shifting but it never seems to be enough so I stay stuck in the resentment? Am I then the problem?
2026-01-31 16:08:22
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Tan-84 :
He has changed and I don’t know why I can’t let go, 20 years later he’s finally doing it right but it just feels different. I think I still love him but I wouldn’t be sad if he left.. I don’t know what to do
2026-02-04 15:20:43
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cosmicfluke :
This was so well put. Thank you.
2026-01-31 13:42:24
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Golden_snow72899 :
I totally get it. My brother keeps insulting me and my parents keep telling me to move on
2026-02-08 09:54:25
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Devin :
it's not fine if it continues to happen
2026-02-01 15:49:38
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user3227324688117 :
This is going to sound weird but there was someone super narcissistic in my life years and years ago and we were close or at least I thought so. I’ve forgiven them and moved on. There is someone new in my life that is showing the same early signs so I distanced myself and they don’t understand why. I wish I could explain it but saying it out loud makes no sense. Insane gift giving right from the start, pride, gossip, they are the victim in every story they tell, instant deep connection, everything is a competition and if they don’t win, the other person is cheating or doing it wrong. If I sat them down and told them they show these signs, i don’t think it would make sense to them but these exact things were how it started before.
2026-01-31 16:07:58
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Trgirl66 :
Because we’re forgiving something that is actually unforgivable and they didn’t ask for forgiveness it’ll never be checkmate
2026-02-01 12:25:13
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K :
resentment is you being unable to forgive yourself from allowing nonsense to be done to you. let alone letting it go on for long.
2026-02-15 08:46:15
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is :
2026 i am getting advice from real-life Dr Addison Montgomery
2026-02-07 16:29:34
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Macfii :
Forgiveness without change feels like a gateway to be exploited
2026-02-09 22:56:02
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Jacqueline Jordan :
thats why "friend" is no longer my friend
2026-01-31 15:05:54
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Squishy :
I build a lot of resentment from my last relationship because of what you just explained. Some people think resentment are for immature people but it's not always. It got to the point, I started to hate myself for feeling that way. Nothing changed. He expected forgiveness and I ran out of patience.
2026-01-31 15:14:18
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karijo2035 :
Forgiving too soon... its what we so for everyone ells
2026-01-30 22:19:21
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riri :
The trust is gone, I’ve forgive for the 5th time. Thr is no change, therefore, I’ll leave but the guilt is eating me
2026-02-02 15:24:35
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🌻Heather🌻 :
That’s why I left for good this time!!!!❤️❤️
2026-01-31 15:50:42
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Tracy :
So well explained. Thank you!
2026-01-31 04:24:13
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Chels :
This is so true
2026-02-02 18:24:35
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Melisa :
so good 😊
2026-02-03 23:05:17
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T.Sanchez:7 :
Right
2026-02-07 06:02:20
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𝓪𝔂𝓸𝓴𝓾𝓷𝓶𝓶𝓲 :
Very well explained
2026-02-02 19:59:24
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Justin Osei :
I never forgive
2026-02-09 17:20:21
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username0104av__ :
sooo this is what’s happening to me
2026-02-01 14:06:35
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😇 :
Thank you!
2026-02-02 11:16:16
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