@cptsdwhisperer: Big reactions usually have a history. A lot of us grew up learning that mistakes came with fear. Sometimes that fear came from being physically hurt, other times it came from intimidation, control, or a parent whose reactions felt overwhelming. Being “handled” like a problem leaves a mark. The body keeps score either way. It learns: stay sharp, don’t mess up, move fast. When these patterns show up later in life, noticing them is often the first real shift. Awareness creates space, and that space is where reactions can slowly soften and new patterns can begin to form. Healing is possible.

krystalhayzeee :

This hit me harder than my mom did.

venturinis412 :

But how do I fix it? I don't know how to stop the anger from coming, it always overpowers me.

Hex: On The Beach :

We didn’t get hit. We got yelled at. It ruined an entire day.

Tish 🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺 :

Im still trying to manage outbursts and feel so ashamed… emotional regulation is fkking hard sometimes

PaintedPyro🦇MCR Nashville :

fallingstars_risingmoon :

I know my problems and why I have them. Now how do I fix them😐

bennettbanana :

took me 35 years to realize it's not normal for parents to take their frustrations and anger out of their kids.

SoberZerker :

Sooooooo my mother had conversations with me. I now see red when people try to talk to me. Not a joke.

DirtyBaby :

THIS was why I went no contact after I had kids. Unlearning while being a parent and trying to teach you son how to regulate emotions while finding out your entire personality is a trauma response and thats why you burnt out 😳

Krystal👑 :

yup. your life experiences are a reflection of your subconscious programming. the programming ususlly stems from childhood trauma

ReShea Packett :

Nope that can’t be it, my parents told me I had no patience’s and needed to figure out how to regulate my emotions…. 😬

iv_xxi :

Oh……..

Vanessa Yanes :

Or yelled at so that what you do now 😭😭

ladyallisun :

Wait.

Sunflwrbby13 :

Mortification of the Flesh :

My poor boyfriend :,(

Just a little guy 🐻 :

IFS therapy really turned it around for me 😭

Pioneer Valley Witch :

it's been so long, it took me a sec to recognize the tatts

Cayleigh 💗 :

“I don’t remember”🥲

shutupmeg001 :

wait.. is that why?? dang

mill9951 :

I had this conversation the other day. And we were comparing the “items used” and we both went “oh shi” at the same time when realization struck when another friend was like WTF????

L—M :

So then why do *I* explode?

Marie :

Well. I know what I'm talking about in therapy tomorrow

bogdude :

oh.. OH

Anna D. :

oh ...explains a lot