Kristen
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Jessica Jones, Ed. S. :
Facts. How they take care of themselves is a reflection of their capacity.
2026-01-31 02:12:55
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Neissie :
This isn’t always true
2026-01-31 16:49:16
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Patricia Melo Riera :
12 years of therapy and it was one tiktok
2026-01-31 13:17:19
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listen.to.the.void :
People can only meet us as deeply as they’ve met themselves
2026-01-31 18:14:33
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tilly_not_matilda :
A lot of people abandon themselves for others
2026-02-01 02:56:05
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Florence :
This is so true! However, someone taking great care of themself, doesn’t necessarily mean they will show that same level of care for you
2026-01-31 05:05:31
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Megan Dana🆘 :
My ex husband was obsessed about his workout and body. Flatly ignored me and my needs to get exercise.
2026-01-31 04:39:47
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ANALISE :
Plot twist: a lot of people who neglect themselves are doing so to benefit other people. They spend all their time helping and doing for others, so they don’t do for themselves. Weak PSA.
2026-02-01 20:36:57
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ᨰׁׅꪱׁׅᥣׁׅ֪ժׁׅ݊ :
If they are avoidant If they are anxious not. They ignore themselves, but not otherz
2026-01-31 00:46:29
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Ali :
I feel like I keep seeing a lot of comments, talking about how people prioritize others. That they’re self sacrificing. I feel like they’re missing that you want to have a healthy relationship, and that will never produce a healthy relationship. Long term. It will lead to resentment.
2026-02-02 01:36:20
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Mc :
Don't agree on this take, because I struggle taking care of myself but I perfectly decode other peoples needs. And I'm perfectly able to take care of them
2026-01-31 06:42:41
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maggiewalsh219 :
What about men who take great care of themselves but don’t care for others? Or women who have great capacity to care for others at the cost of caring for themselves. I’m confused by this one
2026-01-31 18:39:19
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recurring___dream :
someone’s living environment state also tells a lot
2026-03-04 08:47:00
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mila :
Kristen, I really love your content, but this is where you’re wrong - this is not the experience of a lot of us codependents, esp women. We take care of others but don’t take care of ourselves. Esp parentified daughters. We’re conditioned to take care of every aspect of someone else’s life, but our put our needs last. I don’t know if neurodivergence plays a role, but having this caregiving role in our society, that’s propped up by a system that INSISTS on us doing the emotional labour of others in our midst (which creates codependency) is what’s killing us. I’m only now realizing that I can and SHOULD prioritize myself. There’s so much shame involved in taking up space. So no, what you’re saying isn’t correct at all.
2026-02-06 17:26:23
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Careful_Whispers :
That isn’t always true . Many people ignore themselves because they lead with compassion and give away more than they receive. It’s a necessary choice for them to feel good or even relevant sometimes. They put off taking care of themselves until the person in need is better off . It’s sacrificial .
2026-02-02 04:39:33
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rachdol2 :
Wish I thought about this more 10 years ago before I got married 😅
2026-01-31 01:25:31
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Eyevee | Life’s playlist♊️🇵🇷 :
Actually I take care of everyone else better than I take care of myself 😒
2026-02-02 01:43:10
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Jaclyn naster :
People in the comments are proving your point. You are spot on. Learning to care for oneself is essential to being in an any healthy relationship, including non-romantic ones.
2026-02-02 01:33:26
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Sibongile Makurumure ✨️❤️🌸 :
True. Example:Most people who use substances to cope do it to avoid their own emotions and they are likely to be avoidant to yours as well. They become emotionally unavailable to you because they are not even available for theirs.
2026-01-31 12:14:12
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MandersCarmen :
I find this true except for people pleasers
2026-01-31 11:38:10
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Will :
this is an over generalization , pple tend to take care of others more than themselves, it's actually the best way to get pple out of a depressive slump , give them something care for
2026-02-01 07:07:20
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Kisha1122 :
Not true many people self sacrifice for others
2026-01-31 04:09:12
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nv.hm4 :
This is why I opted not to ever have kids. I don’t have that capacity to nurture consistently at all, someday I will though!
2026-01-31 18:47:48
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Everlasting love Ministries :
I agree but is it different for women? Because I see so many women care for others but put themselves last. Any thoughts on this? I would love input.
2026-01-31 03:12:19
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