@therapyjeff: Not to defend pedophiles, but allow me to defend pedophiles. #MentalHealth #therapy

Tism•Riddim :

Saving Noah by Lucinda Berry is a phenomenal book that explores the mother of a pdf teenage son. How do you save your child who has natural, inappropriate desires?

Sammie Lynm :

yup! I work with OCD and i see a lot more of the fear of *becoming* one. but super important distinction for ego dystonic/syntonic 💜

tarynt88 :

These are important distinctions, thank you.

Michelle :

I do believe nuance is helpful in these discussions

Not a Who, A What :

I'm a CSA survivor, and I genuinely have so much sympathy for the first. I know my abusers weren't actually attracted to children. They were just getting off on the power trip of a scared child. How many of the first were abused kids themselves, after all?

bedazzledboots :

Yesss. My personal theory is they’re literally doing it because they can. They’re so wealthy that they become an other to society and don’t have to follow the rules of society. So they just do whatever they want

A :

That first group is the one people aren’t ready to talk about. The difficulty of the life they have to live and what it says about the nature of humanity and existence.

Wobblez91 :

this is my main objection to the wood chipper solution. I don't believe in punishing people who haven't committed a crime and having a thought, especially an unwanted thought, is not inherently a crime.

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Gail Brown :

I don't think if someone doesn't act, they should be applauded. They are trying and know right from wrong.

𝒦𝒶𝓉ℯ𝓁𝓎𝓃 🐝 :

As a therapist who works with the SRY population, thank you for making this clarification. There’s a lot of stigma that people simply do not understand. I sometimes struggle to make this argument concisely, and you did so beautifully. Appreciate your content 🫶

Caitlin :

Thank you for speaking about this as a CSA survivor. I know there are some people who do go and work on these attractions and I wish that there were more provisions and less of a stigma so they could come forward freely and get the help they need.

Munekita :

Jeff, you are a blessing and a breath of fresh air on these platforms. I am so glad you are a vocal therapist

Tina :

thank you for saying this. it's really hard for us mental health professionals to explain things like this to people who want to lump everyone together.

StingerX :

finally someone said it.

Ivy📚🔮🎨 :

It’s unfortunate because people’s discomfort in engaging with the topic leads to more kids being at risk. Blanket shame and outrage doesn’t help when it comes to figuring out how to keep kids from being harmed which should be more important

drlishaantiqua :

Thank you for addressing this.

Wobblez91 :

Also, from a harm reduction standpoint I think this is also why we need to reduce the stigma around *getting help* for PDF thoughts. Focusing on punishing offenders, by definition, requires a crime to occur. That's just PDF whack-a-mole. We need to focus on stopping it before it gets to that point.

prisscalderon :

um what

Danny ♡ :

an important conversation that i had never considered. thank you for posting

user1848362021568 :

actually_a_karen :

Vice had a good video on Non-Offending Pedophiles a few years back. It’s available on YouTube and shows what other countries are doing for this

loveverne :

People telling on themselves in the comments 👀👀👀👀 pay attention.

dear.michelle :

I cannot fathom how incredibly hard it would be to love a life where that attraction is built into you, you know it’s wrong, you hate it, and can’t get rid of it.